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Originally Posted by Lafem
Bros, I'm in no way disputing the prevalence of domestic violence in naija, my response was framed within the context of the recent spate of domestic violence cases involving naijas in america turning DEADLY. I'm merely highlighting the fact that American society presents unique cultural problems and challenges to immigrant marriages/families from more traditional/conservative milieu, such as naija. Consequently a lot of marriages fail as a result of being unable to adjust. Even rearing your child the 'naija' way can become a daunting task.
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Maybe these people are meant to divorce anyway. It may not be America that is the problem but it might be the Nigerians who stay in a marriage just because of the family pressure back in Nigeria. However, once they get to America, they finally have an opportunity to leave an abusive relationship or a relationship that wasn't meant to be in the first place.
I can't count the countless time my parents have counseled naija couples going through marriage problems & I am thinking to myself, "Should this people be together if the husband finds it okay to hit his wife."
I really don't think it is America. I just think not every marriage is meant to work & some people have a hard time letting it go, especially a proud Nigerian man.