01-03-2007, 12:35 PM
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I no get ya time!!
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Originally Posted by iuwa
Maybe these people are meant to divorce anyway. It may not be America that is the problem but it might be the Nigerians who stay in a marriage just because of the family pressure back in Nigeria. However, once they get to America, they finally have an opportunity to leave an abusive relationship or a relationship that wasn't meant to be in the first place.
I can't count the countless time my parents have counseled naija couples going through marriage problems & I am thinking to myself, "Should this people be together if the husband finds it okay to hit his wife."
I really don't think it is America. I just think not every marriage is meant to work & some people have a hard time letting it go, especially a proud Nigerian man.
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VEry true, the bolded points! A lot of times people stay in really bad marraiges, to say they gave it their best.And they get caught up in this whole thing, till their lives are miserable. It goes both ways for the man and the woman. Then one day, things come to a head, pent up anger that has been built over decades just explodes and.....pow, you have a MARITICIDE(killing your spouse)!
When I voice such opinions then i get that "How can you say that", but its very true. We need to be real, and see different situations for what they are, some marriages were never meant to be, and so when they go bad, they REALLY go bad.
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