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Old 01-03-2007, 05:22 PM
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@Kikis and Iuwa: While you ladies did make some valid points, I think you failed to consider the uniqueness of America's position in this matter. Like I stated earlier, the country leads the rest of the world in divorce and broken homes -- that statistic is not by mistake, nor is it haphazard. The high divorce rate isn't unconnected with certain factors that are unique to the american social and legal system, factors which are absent in most other societies.

It's no secret that the u.s. makes divorce way too easy and accessible, especially with its 'no fault' divorce laws/provisions; which allows a spouse to demand and cause the breakup of the marriage even if the other spouse is committed to maintaining the relationship. It's a generally know fact that stable and healthy marriages/families are the bedrock of society and consequently should to be strengthened and not weakened. A society that makes legal provisions that create incentives that promote divorce/broken-homes is only setting itself up for disaster. Indeed, some marriages are beyond repair, however, for the collective good of society, such unfortunate cases should not become the norm, abeg. When a society with an almost extreme individualistic culture and ideological bias for a rabid form of feminism legislates laws that dispropotionately favor one gender above the other in the event of divorce, going as far as rewarding the intiator of the divorce [which overwhelming turn out to be women] with child-support, alimony settlements and other financial gains, why then should a woman feel motivated to fight to save her marriage, when she stands to 'gain' more from being divorced? In a litigation frenzied environment like the u.s., where the courts are the preferred resort for settling domestic and inter-personal disputes, is it any wonder then that the country's divorce rate is the highest in the world?
My comments were on that latent anger that exists in couples who are in a clearly unheathly relationship, but still stick it through due to societal pressure. It is more common than you think, and is not exclusive to the US.

If they pull the stats of how many spousal homicides occur in Naija yearly, you go bow. Isnt it better that they divorce and live apart, that try to keep up the whole happy act of being the BEDROCK of the society and killing off each other in the end.

These occurrences aren't peculiar even in our culture, were women are oppressed and forced to endure, just to keep up with our societal norms. 60% of the time, its a FARCE.Marriages in Africa suffer the same problems as those abroad. The only difference is that in the US you have a voice and the law favours you, so you can do something about it!
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