All these sentiments are great and I am totally there with all of you BUT having been around women who have just given birth especially new mothers....those sentiments don't have any room right this minute. These women are tired, harried and sometime a little overwhelm with their new responsibility and nobody wants anyone even well intentioned relatives hovering over them when they are just trying to pick their way through this new situation, crying baby, ton of baby clothes to wash, bottles to wash and sterilized, food shopping, dinner to prepare, bathroom/bedroom/kitchen/living room to clean up, husband to drop it hot for occasionally, social engagements to attend to with hubby/family members etc etc.

I am sure that Leggy loves and appreciates her in law but at the same time I can understand where she might be coming from - her child is only three months, I think...let the woman breath and get a grip on not just being a wife which she's got an handle on BUT being a mother which takes a moment to get used to for most folks.

I don't think it's that she doesn't want to man to come to her house period but I think it just boils down to - giving her some space - or at being given some advance notice or a call before Grandpa drops by for a visit that way she's prepared.

Just my own opinion on the matter, I am not saying anyone is wrong...just trying to expand the angles from which we can all review the matter.

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