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Old 03-27-2008, 06:42 PM
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Originally Posted by ddizzle View Post
Thus the suggestion of her and her husband pulling him aside and telling him what they feel...

Fine she needs her space everybody is entitled to that... she doesnt need to get worked up it is a situation that can be resolved with all parties sitting down for an old fashioned family meeting!

They do it till this day in my village and honestly it saves time and anger!

@BBfly : girl, u just spoke my mind. I was just going to post that!!

@DD : Its not so easy to talk to Nigerian adults like that. They do not hear please come less often. They will hear - we don't want you in our house. If he were the sensitive kind of guy, he would have given them their space long ago. We think about these things differently because of different experiences. Her father-in-law may be of the school where everyone lives on top of everyone (ago ile) kind of culture. Most people at home are not raised with any concept of privacy. I understand Leggy's frustration, and fear of dealing with it. It could all go horribly wrong. However, we should not minimize her problem and call it "love". Too much love can be choking.
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