The problem with most Nigerians is, we have no boundaries; we werent really raised with them, so a lot of us know no better.......People walk in and out of your life all willy nilly, and if you let them, they will walk all over you....

Granted, yes he is retired and probably bored and needs to spend time with his grandchild and family; but when it begins to cross a line; whatever line, then it becomes an issue. All that nobody knows tomorrow reasoning is a guilt trip right there. Nobody should feel guilty for wanting some solitude and space, Nobody!!, and the icing on the cake is, It is your own bloody house, where the fact that you pay the bills up in that hizzle has given you to express right to dominate, to run around naked chewing on now and laters for all you care!.............And therein lies the problem. Most Nigerians (I keep using most, cos I dont want the generalization crusade on my tail), we dont recognize lines much less caring about crossing them. We do actually notice that we make other people uncomfortable, but heck!, if we are okay, then who cares........Cos that man will not tell me he is not noticing the restless pacing from one room to the other; He cant tell me that he does not notice that Leggy, who obviously has shows she watches on tv, doesnt even watch tv anymore...........Someone thinking sensibly would say...Why is that? and then Ooooh! could be cos she doesnt watch the same things I do and go okay, my daughter, which channel would you like to watch......Even if she says, no papa, I am good!.........at least the fact that he thought to ask will count for so freaking much!............

You cant just jump into someone's car and comandeer the race without their permission just because you know they have too much respect and are somewhat intimidated by you. That is not fair period!........Naija we can sabi how to abuse respect....and people wonder why I no send anybodi!....

And folks here keep sprouting the "sit em down" approach......I no know the kind of Nigerian adults you know, but the kind I know go for don begin take offence from the time wey the sit down begin, even before dem hear the topic first.....To them, older ones are always right; I bet you, for them, the moral of the sitdown go be, my daughter in law does not want me in my son's house

Also, people here are saying her stance is somewhat trivial; and they could be right, but we have to understand that we are all wired different; trivial to one person may mean extremely important to the next person, I have since learned not to make that call for people. That is why I feel, that even if "Papa" was lonely and needed to spend time with his family, he should have called this young family together and talked over it with them and listened to their own takes on it and how it would affect their respective lives esp the new mother seeing that she was home the most, and if they agreed to him "almost moving in" with them, then fine, they can work it out, or else they could also work it where both parties wont end up so hot and bothered.........But that one na supposing sey communication dey the agenda!!

Honestly, Leggy as you don agree to let him reside with you based on "nobody knows tomorrow", then the issue has been mitigated.......which in any case is also good, cos I think you are in murky waters with this one, and any other approach might have led to unfavorable results.....

My own be sey, I dare the mothersucker who will come in between me and my tv......I am daring that person to shege!..........You can finish my food oh, swing from my ceiling fan; whateva!........but for ya hand to touch my remote, and to make marras worse, I dey house fulltime.......na dat time, we go begin tear pant na!