Originally Posted by blackbutterfly

My broz, I may not be anyone's mother but it doesn't mean I can't understand the situation or empathize. I don't think I have to be a mother to understand how it feels sometimes to be overwhelmed and just needing to work it out myself before anyone offers their well intentioned help. Everyone handles theirs differently....everyone's tolerance is different. You worked yours out differently and your sister in laws may have back fired on her, I think it's all in how it is handled. I stand by my "generalization"...people even if it's a small family unit or large don't want people hovering around them all the time. Human beings like their space whether for 5 mins, 1day etc. Even husbands and wives give each other a break by doing something with their friends now and again...It is all in how the matter is handled. I had already suggested that she should sit down with her husband and discuss the matter or have a heart to heart with her mother in law explaining that though she appreciates the visits, could it be timed differently etc etc. I understand that family chipping in in this kinds of situation is very very helpful but her choice is being taken away. It is her home too and she should be able to be free and she should be able to choose when she wants or does not want visitors even if it's family. I know her father in law means no harm and I'm sure she knows that deep in her heart but right now that might not be the best thing for her, for her personality type.

Peacefully speaking
Bfly