I know some of NR forumites are not married yet.I also know that most of you have plans of tying the knots in the not too distant future.That's why i'm bringing this up.
How do y'all feel bout the present high rate of divorce in the mordern society?Do u feel threatened by the situation or should i call it trend.Do u feel alarmed and frightened that it might happen to u?Afterall,we're all part of the socalled mordern society where family values are going down the drain.
Marry today,divorce tommorrow!!Maybe the mordern society should accept divorce parties just like wedding parties!!(Just being cynical )
What's your take?What's the effect on the kids,if there are any involved?

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on da real sha, yea gettin marry self is scary to me, all this men that can't keep a wife @ home, all they wanna do is CHEAT. HOLLA

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Women don't cheat?Why put all the blame on men?

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y'all are the FATHER OF ALL CHEATERS. holla

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@Vince, na where you hear say women no dey cheat, some women just do the cheating on the down low compared to men

Tell that to hollabeyonce,she needs to know a thing or two.

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4 real in my own world woman don't cheat its only MEN. holla

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Girlllllllllllllll...............wake up to reality

And Duhhhhhhhhhhh I have already holla

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as a recent member of the "just-married" club...

yes the divorce rate scared me. But I think that the key is really knowing who your partner is and talking things over. I bleieve that communication is the key and without that the demise of a relationship begins.

The present state of divorce in the modern society (including Naija modern society) is very alarming. It used to be rare in Naija, but now it is just as acceptable as it is in the states.

however, I am threatened that it would happen to me, (besides, if i went in the marriage feeling this way it might happen abi?)

I definitely feel that the key is knowing your partner and not rushing into anything. And patience!! You gotta have patience and not be quick to run out of love. Anything worth keeping is worth fighting for so you gotta work hard at the relationship. nothing comes easy. (but if the man starts to use the woman like a punching bag i'd advise the woman to bounce )

the effect on kids ...well we all know what effect it will have on the kids.

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the effect on kids ...well we all know what effect it will have on the kids. [/b][/quote] 4 real u don tie da nuts am so so proud of ya. holla

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ahahaha no be only.u wey ya hussie and u na ARALDITE dey hold una.

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Two things scare me when the word marriage is mentioned:
1 Cheating
2 Divorce
I can't really understand why men/women cheats. I happen to experience divorce as child (my parent divorced) but 2 be frank it has both psychological and emotional effects on children and I don't even plan to make my own children experience it.
Although am not married but through my journey in life I have learnt several things that would/might help to curb the high percentage of possiblity of divorce.
I believe singles shouldn't rush into marriage cos a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Ladies however needs to exercise patient whatever we might be/experience(ing) in the hands of our husband, we shouldn't just rush out; we should believe we can change the situation if we want to.
A very improtant thing in marriage is understanding and the ability to hold on when things goes wrong in our marriage.

I feel people divorce because of stupidity. U realize you and your partner can't talk you separate. Something wrong with him/her, you leave him/her. Well thats just crazy, in my world, divorce does not exist, you enter into a marriage you stay in it, for better for worse till one of you dies!!!!! In my world the only way you're getting out of the marriage is the death of you

Divorce is for loosers who don't deserve happiness and loving partners

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As someone who has been there for a decade, i think most people go into marriage expecting it to be a bed of roses. The first couple of years, you shag everywhere and launch every room/furniture in the house. Kids arrive and reality hits home. That is when the true test comes and the strong are separated from the weak.

When you start dating subsequently, you don't fight, you see each other and think the world of each other. Then you get married and discover he farts in his sleep, under the duvet, and he finds out you snore and smell like a skunk first thing in the morning.

Well, thats life, get over it, start facing reality, chill out, have a sense of humour and tell yourself you will enjoy the ride with this gorgeous hunk of a guy(even if he looks like godzilla), and you will enjoy it.

Don't go to bed angry with each other, make yourselves feel special as much as possible, and when you fight, make sure making up is fantastic. Also, learn to laugh at yourself, and don't take life too seriously.

Thats it, some of my recipe for a happy, divorce free marriage zone.

Touch wood!