Originally Posted by Sola

Me sef dey go through wahala from my wife. She beats me and makes me sweep the floor, cook the food, wash the clothes like say I be boi-boi. Make una help me b4 I quench o. Leggy, you get vacancy for dat couch?

Originally Posted by leggy

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i wish they lived nearby........even if they did,dont u think they too will get bored of me if i go there everyday

Originally Posted by Sola

Me sef dey go through wahala from my wife. She beats me and makes me sweep the floor, cook the food, wash the clothes like say I be boi-boi. Make una help me b4 I quench o. Leggy, you get vacancy for dat couch?

Originally Posted by funmo

Up madam!! Up auntie!! Tell her to send me the formula for her juju o.

Originally Posted by tam-tam

My sister,

I dey o! Just goin thru my own wahala and from myfamily. Like most people have said, it's a tough one.

It's especially tough where family is involved and to be honest, I really don't know what to say because I haven't really encountered in-law problems. It's actually my family members who are giving me wahala because I'm no longer carrying their problems on their head... but back to leggy's issues - much as I agree with Ddi's point of view, I also know that sometimes we NEED our own space.

Yes, I know life is too short and all that but sometimes, you just want to be with your nuclear family and that's that!

At these times, I just ask God for peace and the grace to handle the situation because I honestly haven't got a clue on how to deal with this one.

So Leggy my dear, if all else fails, prayer doesn't, ever...use it...extensively...it works! I know

Originally Posted by Sola

Me sef dey go through wahala from my wife. She beats me and makes me sweep the floor, cook the food, wash the clothes like say I be boi-boi. Make una help me b4 I quench o. Leggy, you get vacancy for dat couch?

Originally Posted by leggy

i dont know aw to actually start wat i'm abt to say cos i'm actually pissed off rite now.he started coming over to our house since d day i had my baby(abt 3months ago).He comes EVERY F8CKING DAY.arrrrrrrgh.imagine having d same visitor everyday.eating ur food,using d toilet,taking control of d tv etc,etc.the exact problem is i'm not F8CKING FREE IN MY HOUSE ANYMORE.

i'm not dat free with him.His son is not free with him either.we dont really av anything to say together.i av tried to really stomach his visit but not anymore.he sits in front of d tv from like 2.30pm till 9.30pm(see me see wahala) changing channels anyhow thereby making me miss all my own progms.to worsen d matter,his son is not always around so i'm d one dat sits at home with him from morning till nite,going from one room to d other just to avoid him.hisssssssssss.

At first,he says he was always coming so as to stay with d baby 4 me while i sleep.and once my mum-in law is around,he wont be coming everyday.okay we agreed.my mum-in law has bin around since 2wks now.that is when my father in law now deemed it fit to kuku be coming very early in d morning everyday.his exccuse,i av come to see my wife's face......what d f8uck is dat?
4 heavens sake we are not in naija where pple just come visiting like dat.sometimes we f8ciking need our privacy........to cut the long story short.i av told his son to find a way of telling his papa to reduce his visits.he says he doesnt know aw to tell him which i understand and i told him to tell his mum to tell her husband to PLEASE IN THE NAME OF GOD REDUCE THIS BORING AND ANNOYING VISITS.

ive told my mum abt this but she said i shld not tell my hus but too late i told him already.no regret.i just want y'all to help us out.aw shuld my hus table the matter in front of his mum so dat d mum can table d matter to her hus.(they really fear that man no be small).pls i want ur contributions cos as i'm typing this, himself and my mum in law are rite behind me doing some kurukuru......really i'm pissed off.i dont want to cook anything until he's gone.period.

Originally Posted by ddizzle

Leggy I understand where youre coming from but im going to approach the situation from your father in laws point of view. This is man that you said is retired, his kids live in town (2 others) but yet he tends to visit your house more often watches tv as he pleases and so on. From what i can gather he has lived most of his life raised his children and is enjoying his retirement.

so you gave birth to a bundle of joy and now he has a new grandchild (is that his first?).

did it ever occur that simply just wants to be a part of your babies life... he is a pain now but no one knows tomorow... i wish my paternal grandfather and grandmother came over to my house when i was a baby every day... they might run up the bills but at least i'd know them.

Time flies leggy before you know it (God forbid) this man is gone what will you say then? Life is short its the bad things we will remember if we keep dwelling on the bad im sure he means well...Allow the man.. his last child now has a family of his own and he is simply proud and just wants to be a part of your childs life

Im sure he is mature you and husband can sit him down and talk... maybe he can shorten his visits to weekends.. but please at least allow him to pass wisdom to your son/daughter even if your child is only 3 months old..for his wisdom passed down may last your child a lifetime

Originally Posted by leggy

i dont know aw to actually start wat i'm abt to say cos i'm actually pissed off rite now.he started coming over to our house since d day i had my baby(abt 3months ago).He comes EVERY F8CKING DAY.arrrrrrrgh.imagine having d same visitor everyday.eating ur food,using d toilet,taking control of d tv etc,etc.the exact problem is i'm not F8CKING FREE IN MY HOUSE ANYMORE.

i'm not dat free with him.His son is not free with him either.we dont really av anything to say together.i av tried to really stomach his visit but not anymore.he sits in front of d tv from like 2.30pm till 9.30pm(see me see wahala) changing channels anyhow thereby making me miss all my own progms.to worsen d matter,his son is not always around so i'm d one dat sits at home with him from morning till nite,going from one room to d other just to avoid him.hisssssssssss.

At first,he says he was always coming so as to stay with d baby 4 me while i sleep.and once my mum-in law is around,he wont be coming everyday.okay we agreed.my mum-in law has bin around since 2wks now.that is when my father in law now deemed it fit to kuku be coming very early in d morning everyday.his exccuse,i av come to see my wife's face......what d f8uck is dat?
4 heavens sake we are not in naija where pple just come visiting like dat.sometimes we f8ciking need our privacy........to cut the long story short.i av told his son to find a way of telling his papa to reduce his visits.he says he doesnt know aw to tell him which i understand and i told him to tell his mum to tell her husband to PLEASE IN THE NAME OF GOD REDUCE THIS BORING AND ANNOYING VISITS.

ive told my mum abt this but she said i shld not tell my hus but too late i told him already.no regret.i just want y'all to help us out.aw shuld my hus table the matter in front of his mum so dat d mum can table d matter to her hus.(they really fear that man no be small).pls i want ur contributions cos as i'm typing this, himself and my mum in law are rite behind me doing some kurukuru......really i'm pissed off.i dont want to cook anything until he's gone.period.

Originally Posted by ddizzle

Leggy I understand where youre coming from but im going to approach the situation from your father in laws point of view. This is man that you said is retired, his kids live in town (2 others) but yet he tends to visit your house more often watches tv as he pleases and so on. From what i can gather he has lived most of his life raised his children and is enjoying his retirement.

so you gave birth to a bundle of joy and now he has a new grandchild (is that his first?).

did it ever occur that simply just wants to be a part of your babies life... he is a pain now but no one knows tomorow... i wish my paternal grandfather and grandmother came over to my house when i was a baby every day... they might run up the bills but at least i'd know them.

Time flies leggy before you know it (God forbid) this man is gone what will you say then? Life is short its the bad things we will remember if we keep dwelling on the bad im sure he means well...Allow the man.. his last child now has a family of his own and he is simply proud and just wants to be a part of your childs life

Im sure he is mature you and husband can sit him down and talk... maybe he can shorten his visits to weekends.. but please at least allow him to pass wisdom to your son/daughter even if your child is only 3 months old..for his wisdom passed down may last your child a lifetime

Originally Posted by Sifu

I thought you were going to say that he has been disrespecting you. Leggy, just try and relax for now. You have your hands more than full right now with a little baby. You have to be careful with how you handle this one because even if you tell you rmother in law to tell him it might come back to bite you in the butt. Afterall they are husband and wife abi. Is there another TV somewhere that he can watch? You should not be worrying about cooking and cleaning after anybody else right now so I definitely understand that. Maybe you should order him pizza a few times then maybe your house will not seem so pleasant anymore. Just relax and let your husband handle this one.

Originally Posted by ddizzle

Leggy I understand where youre coming from but im going to approach the situation from your father in laws point of view. This is man that you said is retired, his kids live in town (2 others) but yet he tends to visit your house more often watches tv as he pleases and so on. From what i can gather he has lived most of his life raised his children and is enjoying his retirement.

so you gave birth to a bundle of joy and now he has a new grandchild (is that his first?).

did it ever occur that simply just wants to be a part of your babies life... he is a pain now but no one knows tomorow... i wish my paternal grandfather and grandmother came over to my house when i was a baby every day... they might run up the bills but at least i'd know them.

Time flies leggy before you know it (God forbid) this man is gone what will you say then? Life is short its the bad things we will remember if we keep dwelling on the bad im sure he means well...Allow the man.. his last child now has a family of his own and he is simply proud and just wants to be a part of your childs life

Im sure he is mature you and husband can sit him down and talk... maybe he can shorten his visits to weekends.. but please at least allow him to pass wisdom to your son/daughter even if your child is only 3 months old..for his wisdom passed down may last your child a lifetime

Originally Posted by tam-tam

My sister,

I dey o! Just goin thru my own wahala and from myfamily. Like most people have said, it's a tough one.

It's especially tough where family is involved and to be honest, I really don't know what to say because I haven't really encountered in-law problems. It's actually my family members who are giving me wahala because I'm no longer carrying their problems on their head... but back to leggy's issues - much as I agree with Ddi's point of view, I also know that sometimes we NEED our own space.

Yes, I know life is too short and all that but sometimes, you just want to be with your nuclear family and that's that!

At these times, I just ask God for peace and the grace to handle the situation because I honestly haven't got a clue on how to deal with this one.

So Leggy my dear, if all else fails, prayer doesn't, ever...use it...extensively...it works! I know