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I am glad you appreciated my POV.......Afterall, you are the reason we all gathered here..........@ highlighted....I dont blame you; guilt trips are meant to trigger those kind of emotions; fear being a big one!...Hope everything works out for you sis!!....
@ Sifu, I knew someone would come at me with the till you are married post, just like BBfly was told she couldn't possibly relate to a mother's plight because she isn't one......My sister, I might not be married, but I still have a wealth of experience in certain things.....I no need show my dross for public for people to confirm the color.....  |
I have no clue where you got that. Those words were never written anywhere in this thread... But if that's what you understood from my post to her, it is well...
The simple fact is, no matter how much experience you think you have in a particular subject, as a spectator, it cannot, in any logical or realistic term, compare to the actual experience. This is a simple fact.
Do you have a right to an opinion? ABSOLUTELY! Will your opinion be wrong just because of the lack of actual experience? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
However, just because, throughout my life, I have seen women enduring menstrual cramps or PMS, I can NEVER claim to have more knowledge than a woman that has actually EXPERIENCED these things. Short of being a research scientist, who has conducted multiple studies with women, to become and expert in the field, whatever "wealth of knowledge", I think I have, cannot trump someone's else's experience. And I should not take offence if a woman, that has experienced those things, points out my lack of experience. It is simply a statement of fact.
Again, experience, no experience, EVERYONE has a right to their opinion and comments.
Simply pointing out a lack of one's experience in a particular issue does not discount their comments, but adds perspective to it.
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You can certainly relate but you might not fully understand. It's just like someone who took care of a loved one that was sick. You can say you know how it is but you did not feel it. I am not saying you are not wise. God have mercy. I am only saying that you can definitely sympathize afterall you are human but you cannot fully relate. No be fight.
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Funny I replied Candy before I read your post Sid. Basically the same thing I was trying to say but in a hurry.
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I am glad you appreciated my POV.......Afterall, you are the reason we all gathered here..........@ highlighted....I dont blame you; guilt trips are meant to trigger those kind of emotions; fear being a big one!...Hope everything works out for you sis!!....
@ Sifu, I knew someone would come at me with the till you are married post, just like BBfly was told she couldn't possibly relate to a mother's plight because she isn't one......My sister, I might not be married, but I still have a wealth of experience in certain things..... I no need show my dross for public for people to confirm the color..... |
JESUUUUUUUUUUUUUU, I never heard that one before...chei...I must use it one day!!!
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I have no clue where you got that. Those words were never written anywhere in this thread... But if that's what you understood from my post to her, it is well...
The simple fact is, no matter how much experience you think you have in a particular subject, as a spectator, it cannot, in any logical or realistic term, compare to the actual experience. This is a simple fact.
Do you have a right to an opinion? ABSOLUTELY! Will your opinion be wrong just because of the lack of actual experience? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
However, just because, throughout my life, I have seen women enduring menstrual cramps or PMS, I can NEVER claim to have more knowledge than a woman that has actually EXPERIENCED these things. Short of being a research scientist, who has conducted multiple studies with women, to become and expert in the field, whatever "wealth of knowledge", I think I have, cannot trump someone's else's experience. And I should not take offence if a woman, that has experienced those things, points out my lack of experience. It is simply a statement of fact.
Again, experience, no experience, EVERYONE has a right to their opinion and comments.
Simply pointing out a lack of one's experience in a particular issue does not discount their comments, but adds perspective to it.
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I really am not a "back and forther" as I choose to call it, but this one time, let me give it a go. Your post seemed, IMO to be pointing out the fact that she is not a mother and in that context a lil less experienced, and you as a father had actual experience; if not, then the lil line "from your post, I take it you are not a mother" was tres unneccessary; I would think you intended for it to prove some kind of point............but anyways, what do I know? I have been known to be wrong, you wrote the post, so only you know what you had in mind; but as I no dey your mind, e go hard me to comprehend it exactly the way you intended it.......It doesnt matter anyways!
@ Sifu......my post was more tongue in cheek than combative, I am amused that you found the latter to be the premise!........I am generally a goofball, and I dont take myself too seriously on this site....
Bottomline is this, we all come from different backgrounds and as such are prone to handling situations differently. This does not neccessarily make one way better than the other........what works for Mr A, might not work for Mr B....what goes for the goose does not have to apply to the gander; so to each his own!............And I believe that is why Leggy brought this up here, cos she knew she would most def get varying opinions, then she would glean all she possibly can from it, and use as she sees fit!
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Bottomline is this, we all come from different backgrounds and as such are prone to handling situations differently. This does not neccessarily make one way better than the other........what works for Mr A, might not work for Mr B....what goes for the goose does not have to apply to the gander; so to each his own!............And I believe that is why Leggy brought this up here, cos she knew she would most def get varying opinions, then she would glean all she possibly can from it, and use as she sees fit!
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I really am not a "back and forther" as I choose to call it, but this one time, let me give it a go. Your post seemed, IMO to be pointing out the fact that she is not a mother and in that context a lil less experienced, and you as a father had actual experience; if not, then the lil line "from your post, I take it you are not a mother" was tres unneccessary; I would think you intended for it to prove some kind of point............but anyways, what do I know? I have been known to be wrong, you wrote the post, so only you know what you had in mind; but as I no dey your mind, e go hard me to comprehend it exactly the way you intended it.......It doesnt matter anyways!
@ Sifu......my post was more tongue in cheek than combative, I am amused that you found the latter to be the premise!........I am generally a goofball, and I dont take myself too seriously on this site....
Bottomline is this, we all come from different backgrounds and as such are prone to handling situations differently. This does not neccessarily make one way better than the other........what works for Mr A, might not work for Mr B....what goes for the goose does not have to apply to the gander; so to each his own!............And I believe that is why Leggy brought this up here, cos she knew she would most def get varying opinions, then she would glean all she possibly can from it, and use as she sees fit!
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Unecessary if it was intended as a slight.. It was not....
From my other post, to you...
"Simply pointing out a lack of one's experience in a particular issue does not discount their comments, but adds perspective to it."
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04-01-2008, 03:24 AM
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i dont know aw to actually start wat i'm abt to say cos i'm actually pissed off rite now.he started coming over to our house since d day i had my baby(abt 3months ago).He comes EVERY F8CKING DAY.arrrrrrrgh.imagine having d same visitor everyday.eating ur food,using d toilet,taking control of d tv etc,etc.the exact problem is i'm not F8CKING FREE IN MY HOUSE ANYMORE.
i'm not dat free with him.His son is not free with him either.we dont really av anything to say together.i av tried to really stomach his visit but not anymore.he sits in front of d tv from like 2.30pm till 9.30pm(see me see wahala) changing channels anyhow thereby making me miss all my own progms
.................is when my father in law now deemed it fit to kuku be coming very early in d morning everyday.his exccuse,i av come to see my wife's face......what d f8uck is dat?
.........................and i told him to tell his mum to tell her husband to PLEASE IN THE NAME OF GOD REDUCE THIS BORING AND ANNOYING VISITS.
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Dont mean to laugh leggy as I se you're pissed but...........................................
ROTFLMAO!  ....
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Funmo? Which kin Dr. Phil SAT you dey give Leggy now?  De woman get knife for hand you wan make am fill out questionaire.....  |
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she will be so insulted that you have the temerity and concobility to talk about her husband like that.
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so, leggy, how did it turn out?
did you speak with him?
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TM, confess, your oga is away for today too abi? 
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so, leggy, how did it turn out?
did you speak with him?
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i agree with the person who give the advice to answer those questions maybe if we get the answer we can help.
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i fully confess, she's been away for the past couple of days.
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