MEN like to stare at a well-groomed woman. If you want his gaze to stay focused on you and never look at another woman again, do not let him see you do these things:
Your Hygiene Ritual
The effect of your skin exfoliation, manicure and pedicure are so wonderful he could literally put you in his mouth and devour you. But never let him watch you in the process of scraping and removing all that slush. He would prefer to believe that your mint and fresh state is a gift lovingly bestowed on his woman exclusively by nature. It is not that he is not aware of the trips to the beauty salon, but better to do your mushy bit in private.
She dey do as if she no dey shit is a common statement guys make about a woman with high standards. But the truth is that given the chance, many women would not want to shit if only for environmental reasons.
However, you do not do it in public so it is assumed that you don't. But nature says that you must and your besotted has the vaguest idea that you do and is baffled that you could answer the call of nature and stay fresh. Mystery is always exciting to unravel; make him wonder. When you enter the loo, lock the door. You are not playing a tuneful music so he is not likely to listen or even open the door. There are certain similarities that men find difficult to accept.
Brush your teeth in private. Clip your nails when he is not nearby. Hair under the armpit remains unsightly. Remove them when he is not looking.
Flirting With Other Men
A man feels threatened when he sees his partner look at another man. Do not pay as much attention to suggest that you want to be closer to another man when he is present. Don't laugh too much when another man makes a joke, especially one that is not funny at all. If you do, he would think that you are about to cheat on him.
Flirting has its advantages and can get you out of difficult situations. But carry it on for so long in his presence, he would not like it. Acting so suggestively with another man may send the signal that you want to leave him because he is not doing enough to satisfy you and is about to lose you. It can lead to distrust. He would think that if you could carry on so crazily in his presence, you could do worse in his absence. Consider that you would not like it too if he looked at another girl while you sat by his side. Spare him the pain of humiliation. Flirting may just be a harmless way of getting people on your side, but wink and act when he is not in view.
Gossiping
Men gossip although they call it discussion. But the common knowledge is that men's so-called discussion can be damaging especially when it concerns the opposite sex. Women rarely find such discussions funny. Men too see it as very serious when you damage another person with your tongue. It could cause you your relationship even if you were tongue-lashing your best friend to his hearing. Your words may or may not have smeared your friend in his reckoning, but they will not raise his opinion of you either. If a man is full of insecurities, he would think that if you could use such vicious words to describe your friends or anybody close to you, you would not spare him and his habits. He may not waste time to dump you.
Women on the hand see gossiping as meaningless chatter which most of the time is fueled by envy. So if you most castigate your other friend behind her, do not let your loved one hear your stinging words. See your friend outside and do your chatting there. Vent your spleen. It is always a refreshing sight to see two women standing on the street corner whispering and demonstrating. Everybody understands what is going on. Amebo. Be aware however that the time will come when your friends will shred you with their tongues.
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