Thread: Wrong Concepts of Marriage

Originally Posted by amamellow

samira where can i purchase the cd?

He had a website at http://centralgospel.com/motabil/redirect.html

and over there, there is a list of his cd's but i think the website is under reconstruction and so when it is back up you can order it from there. My girlfriend has seven cassettes of his marriage 101 and it was very very good. I listened to it a while back and cannot remember the details. but you know what, I will get it from her tonight and play it and come and post what he said about the basic fundamentals of marriage in his first cassette. If you have someone going home, you can also have them get it for you. Dr. Mensa Otabil is a respected Christian Rev and although I am a Muslim, I still like to listen to him as he is very good.

Samira there is a Nigerian Guy called Dr Femi somethingm he has the best mariage articles I have ever seen. I will find link and send

Originally Posted by samira

How can someone make you happy when you are not feeling this happiness in yourself. See, Ricardo, I am referring to not being happy before jumping into marriage. Remember, if you do not love yourself and content with what you have, no one can make you happy....and this includes a husband. Marriage is about sharing your life when you are ready for it. People should not just go into marriage expecting the spouse to make wonders by providing that happiness that they could not find on their own. It will never work. You build happiness with your spouse together and not expect your spouse to make it happen for you both. You need to listen to Dr. Otabil's cd about marriage 101 and maybe you will understand better where I am coming from.

I understand and agree with you, nevertheless the expectation of my spouse making me happy should be there. One should marry someone who'll make him or her happy.
I have listen to the tapes, and I do agree with him almost fully ( 98%), but there are few things which are practical that I think he could have elaborate further on them.

Anyway, how is my sweet sis doing ?

Originally Posted by amamellow

samira where can i purchase the cd?

I have some Opanin Kwadwo Kyere Cd s for sale Ama ! They are in Twi, but fantastic ! he was just in Chicago, and left some for me to sell for him.
$100 will get you 20 cds on different topics in marriage.
Like:
Preparation for marriage
Choosing a partner, and the rest ! Let me know (PM) if you're interested !

Originally Posted by Ricardo

I understand and agree with you, nevertheless the expectation of my spouse making me happy should be there. One should marry someone who'll make him or her happy.
I have listen to the tapes, and I do agree with him almost fully ( 98%), but there are few things which are practical that I think he could have elaborate further on them.

Anyway, how is my sweet sis doing ?

Of course we expect our future partners to bring us "more" happiness as by the time we meet them we already have experienced happiness ourselves. With the two combined, it will strengthen the marriage. If we expect it all from this one person, after a while he will be exhausted and the marriage will collapse. You cannot make someone’s happiness your own Ricardo. You should know it yourself and then share it with the other. Marriage is about sharing and not expecting a spouse to do all the giving.


Your sweet sis is doing great as usual. How about your handsome self ma dear?

he is very very good, this man can preach, you know most of the pastors back home are all the time preaching about how you will go abroad,how you will get husbands, and so on and on but this man preach about life, your attitude to life and having a positive mind , i tell you i love him, when i was in ghana , he had this program on radio gold every afternoon and i will never miss it not for anything and my dad also love him. will ask my dad to get me the cd, thank you very much

Originally Posted by samira

He had a website at http://centralgospel.com/motabil/redirect.html

and over there, there is a list of his cd's but i think the website is under reconstruction and so when it is back up you can order it from there. My girlfriend has seven cassettes of his marriage 101 and it was very very good. I listened to it a while back and cannot remember the details. but you know what, I will get it from her tonight and play it and come and post what he said about the basic fundamentals of marriage in his first cassette. If you have someone going home, you can also have them get it for you. Dr. Mensa Otabil is a respected Christian Rev and although I am a Muslim, I still like to listen to him as he is very good.

Samira
Femi Awodele's
http://www.alegent.com/body.cfm?id=7...=detail&ref=82
http://nigeriaworld.com/feature/publ...le/053106.html

awwwwwwwwww , thank you ricardo, i use to listen to him too when in ghana , i have some of his tapes with me here.

Originally Posted by Ricardo

I have some Opanin Kwadwo Kyere Cd s for sale Ama ! They are in Twi, but fantastic ! he was just in Chicago, and left some for me to sell for him.
$100 will get you 20 cds on different topics in marriage.
Like:
Preparation for marriage
Choosing a partner, and the rest ! Let me know (PM) if you're interested !

Originally Posted by Ricardo

What are some of the “poochy” “coochy”, lousy, lame, unscrupulous, vague, unrealistic reasons people marry?

What are your experiences if any? Or the ones you have heard discussed somewhere? How would you advise a loved one about those?

I wouldn't know, I married for different reason(s).

Originally Posted by jamaicayute

Samira there is a Nigerian Guy called Dr Femi somethingm he has the best mariage articles I have ever seen. I will find link and send

Please do...lots of love j'yute.

Originally Posted by samira

Please do...lots of love j'yute.

Did you get it? He has a book too. I even emailed him one time to congratulate him and he emailed me back. Cool dude I guess.

Originally Posted by jamaicayute

Did you get it? He has a book too. I even emailed him one time to congratulate him and he emailed me back. Cool dude I guess.

Yes, I am reading his website. thanks j'yute.

Originally Posted by samira

Yes, I am reading his website. thanks j'yute.

The links on Nigeria world is better. His actual website has problems

Most people go into a marriage thinking they can change their partner. People don't change. If circumstances change, people will change, but under the same circumstance a person will still act the same.