So what if I am just so damn miserable & I have put in every effort I can to make it work but we are no longer happy with each other. Should I stick it out & waste my years making a marriage work just to save face.

Believe it or not, people change & fall out of love. With or without spousal abuse or cheating, I refuse to stay in a marriage that makes me miserable. I have one life to live & I am going to live it to the fullest!

US-based Nigerian Convicted Of Stabbing Wife To Death

By Bayo Alade
Saturday, December 8, 2007

A Nigerian, Kelechi C. Emeruwa, 42, living in Burtonsville, Montgomerie United States of America, has been convicted for stabbing his wife to death. The murder took place on January 1 this year. Emeruwa was found guilty of first-degree murder and three counts of second-degree assault following a six-day trial in Montgomery County Circuit Court. His wife, Chidiebere O. Ochulo, 36, with whom Emeruwa was living in Nigeria before both relocated to the US, was found dead in her home in the 4200 block of Dunwood Terrace by her brother-in-law at about 2:30 a.m. on New Year Day 2007. County police and fire and rescue workers reported that Chidiebere had multiple stab wounds in her upper chest and back.

Chidiebere, who was separated from Emeruwa at the time of her death, had previously filed one assault charge and multiple protective orders against her husband, according to charging documents. Emeruwa picked her up from the airport on Dec. 31, 2006, upon her return from a three-week trip to Nigeria where she went to bury her dad and drove her back to her home, where Emeruwa's mother had been watching the couple's children two boys (Jachi,8; Elijah, 4 and a girl, Anthoinette 6). Both apparently had a quarrel over the car that Emeruwa drove which belonged to Chidiebere. Other members of Emeruwa's family arrived at Ochulo's house at 10:30 p.m. that evening, but Emeruwa refused to allow them in the house, saying he was taking the children out and that Chidiebere was sleeping. Family members noticed the children were upset and later called the police. Officers came to the house about 11:30 p.m. but left when no one answered the door. Family members returned to Chidiebere's home hours later, when her body was discovered. Officers captured Emeruwa after an all-day search on January 1, 2007, culminating in a police chase that ended when Emeruwa rammed several police cruisers, according to police sources. His three children were with him in the car, and all four suffered minor injuries when police started to frantically search for them after the murder.

Chidiebere was born on June 1, 1970 and attended schools in Umuahia and Yola before proceeding to University of Nigeria Nsukka where she bagged a degree in Microbiology. She got married to Kelechi in 1996 and left for the US same year, having won the American Visa lottery. In an effort to really settle down in the US and get a respectable job, she took a second degree in Nursing and began a carrer at Washington Hospital Centre. As a result of her hard work, she got to the peak of the administrative cadre as a Deputy Director, Clinical Services, at the Centre.

Chidiebere was said to have done everything to save her marriage but it was as if it was doomed for failure. She was fully responsible for the payment of her children's school fees. When the issue of her troubled marriage came up in her last encounter with her mother when she came home for her father's burial, she was said to have told her mum: But Mama, I love KC.

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Do they have the death penalty in that state

O God .....so sad

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THEY WILL ALWAYS TALK BUT YOUR CHOICE IN WHO YOU LISTEN TO IS WHAT MATTERS......

Nawah Oh...What kind of Barberic Naija people dey dis country sha!

He prolly has been watching too much Court TV sef...so sad for the kids..

To all my women in abusive relationships the minute he hits you...get ur ass up and run with the kids!

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It appears the moment a nursing degree is aquired a marriage is doomed .
Nursing has become the Nigerian curse !

the problem is that the men this nursing women marry are so insecure ..........na so my aunt's marriage for NY pafuka ... the man was so insecure even with all his masters degrees he was still hitting on her ....but my aunt called off the marriage and shortly after she got married to someone else. .... It's very important for a lady to have a man in the house it could be your brother/father/new husband whatever to wade off the ex husband

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SOMETIMES IT IS HARD TO SEE THE PLACE,GOD HAS CALLED YOU AS A PLACE OF BLESSING, BUT THATS WHEN YOU'VE GOT TO HOLD ON AND TRUST THE PROCESS
PEOPLE TEND TO DRAW OTHERS BACK FROM THINGS THEY SECRETLY WOULD HAVE LOVED TO DO BUT ARE NOT CAPABLE OR DARING ENOUGH TO DO
THEY WILL ALWAYS TALK BUT YOUR CHOICE IN WHO YOU LISTEN TO IS WHAT MATTERS......

You mean he is still bothering even after the divorce?

Na why i talk say levels dey. Men always feel insecure when their wives earn more than them. so ladies if una never see man wey rich like Trump, no even bother say hello to am.

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Unfortunately, Maryland does not have the death penalty...it's only the commonwealth states like Virgina, Texas and some others that I can't remember off hand now that has access to the death sentence.

The sentence that he might be given is and that is depending on the circumstances around the crime is 30 years to life imprisonment with no possibility of parole. He will definely serve the sentence till he gets so old and won't have any usefullness to add to the world anymore...okay maybe he might want to see his children again...but I'm not too sure if they would want to see him though not after what he has caused them to have to face in this world.


Hmmm, see how this woman just ended up allowing this frustrated man to just not only send her to her early grave but also deprived her beautiful children their mother for life.

Okay, can anybody explain to me what the woman was still doing with the man for goodness sake?!!! She already had made countless report to the police that the man was abusing her...the man was already given a number of restraining orders to stay way from her. Why in peace sake did this woman go against the restraint order by allowing the man to not only stay in her life but to come pick her up from the airport on her arrival from naija? So she couldn't get anybody else aside from this man to come pick her up abi?...knowing fully well that the man was a danger to her life.

Okay, fine. The man supported her all through her Nursing career at least till she got her BS in Nursing...but after that was done why didn't he too decide to go back to school or maybe pursue his own career but no! What was he doing?(I'm not even going to go into that now)

I am sure nothing was preventing this man from going further to carry on with his career oh! At least I am sure the woman wouldn't have been that ungreatful not to have supported him if he truly wanted to get a degree that would have earned him a higher income than the cab driving he alone decided to continue on. The woman moved on to aim higher with her career by doing her masters and with her hardwork and committed effort got promoted to a higher position at one of the best teaching hospital in DC WHC.

Bottom line, the man became frustrated and jealous that the woman was making more money tripple his salary. He didn't know what to do with his frustrated life other than do find himself committing multiple law offenses from drunk driving to beating his wife anytime a fight came up.

Anyway, I just hope we woman would take this woman experience as a lesson and stop finding ourselves having to deal with all these men that have no future for progressiveness in thier lives. Now I see why some women have made it a point not to want to marry any man lower than them in status.

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My sista I asked the same question ...and she knows how volatile the man is and she decided to quarrel him about using her own car to pick her from the airport after ......himself and his mother watched her house and the kids while she was away in Nigeria ...that alone is a recipe for disaster considering his past violence.

The man prolly thought she would be so grateful he picked her from the airport and took care of the kids and the house ...his ego could not handle the scolding from her and he snapped !

I mean multiple stab wounds is a sign of pent up anger temporary insanity now his kids have become orphans at the mercy of relatives ...second class citizens in someone else's home ....what a sad sad story...the kids look so much like him !!


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Kids picture at bottom of link

Another cab driver Dallas case

Family members added to the woman's inability to completely stay away from the man. OB, as you already know with the way our naija folks talk...ehn, after the man supported her throughout the years she was in Nursing school...she now has a status higher than him in every rantification and so she now wants to pay him back by being ungrateful to now leave him after a mere fight that all couples go through all the time.

The lady as we speak didn't even make any effort to divorce the stupid man all in the name of the so called love she still had for the man and also in an attempt to keep the man's family members from getting on her case.

Hiiiiiiiiiissssssssssssss, what a pity

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It's not about nursing degree. The problem is that most married women (women in general) are poor managers of success. In most homes where women are more succesful than their husband , there are problems. Why do u think Juanita Bryum (?) and Paula White , both great and succesful women preachers are unable to sustain their marriages?

Any home where the man is not the "HEAD" is bound to scatter.

What the hell are you talking about