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36 years without a man

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by amamellow, Aug 27, 2006.

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  1. KikisMuffin

    KikisMuffin I no get ya time!!

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    :confused: :eek: Wonderful...you guys are still at it? undertones of confusion....!
     
  2. Field Marshal

    Field Marshal ABSOLUTE SUPREME RULER

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    Wia u dey since? :mad: U sopoz dey mai Mansion last nite!:(
     
  3. olofofogal

    olofofogal Let d smoke carry d point

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    FM u R p-a-t-h-e-t-i-c!
     
  4. jamaicayute

    jamaicayute Naija Movie Lovah

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    When since women make that decision?
     
  5. Field Marshal

    Field Marshal ABSOLUTE SUPREME RULER

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    Lef me alone o! Awa contract don end, abi no be so? :devil :mad: :(
     
  6. angeleyez

    angeleyez angeleyez

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    :bouncy confused madam.....welcome aboard
     
  7. angeleyez

    angeleyez angeleyez

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    You no remember, ever since men decided dey wan become babysitters now.:bouncy
     
  8. Joi

    Joi Code Cracker

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    So you mean it's 300 and something post replies of "nothing"?

     
  9. Joi

    Joi Code Cracker

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    Welcome where? Not my portion abeg. una too rotten for me. I'm heading of the Religious Forum. Make una carry go action-s:

     
  10. olofofogal

    olofofogal Let d smoke carry d point

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    joi u don change oh!!!!!..i am happy for u!grinning:
     
  11. olofofogal

    olofofogal Let d smoke carry d point

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    Variety, according to the elders, is the spice of life. The same thing goes for the problems of individuals. While some ladies shun men who fall head over heels in love with them, others unsuccessfully beg their ancestors to send men to seek their hands in marriage. Thus, many ladies remain single for life, a condition that attracts ridicule in Africa. To avoid this, some women can adopt some hideous solutions, one of which is reported here.

    Barely a week after a final year Banking and Finance student of Edo State-owned Ambrose Alli University, Ekpoma, Omolemo Adodo allegedly committed suicide in Erah, a 45-year-old woman, Paulina Odion Akhere, took her own life. Her frustration was her inability to secure a husband like her mates. The incident has thrown the residents of Hayble Street, Eguare, Ekpoma, into a state of mourning. Reliable sources told Across Nigeria in Benin City that the deceased jumped through the window at night and sneaked into the kitchen, where she allegedly soaked herself with kerosene and set herself ablaze.

    It was learnt that before the late Miss Akhere embarked on the suicide mission, she had read a portion from a Bible found on top of a table in her room. Although there was power failure on the fateful day, she had made use of a kerosine lantern. The deceased, until she took her life, was said to have had a sore on her leg which failed to heal. This, it was gathered, made men to avoid her like a forghorn, a situation that turned her to a bundle of nerves. In spite of her gregarious nature, she kept her suicide plan close to her chest.

    The landlord of the house, Mr. Frank Ovbiose, said the charred body of late Miss Akhere was found in the kitchen when occupants woke up in the morning. Nobody, he lamented, could claim to know why she decided to take her life, “even though we know that her unmarried status at her age gave her a lot of concern

    http://www.thenewsng.com/modules/news/article.php?storyid=1399
     
  12. Obariba

    Obariba Koininonia

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    Interesting !!
     
  13. chi

    chi I am blessed

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    a pathetic story
     
  14. Ekwi

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    yes i would be worried because of our type of society moreso because its something that i as a person desire and its not coming forth. many ladies that have come of age and are still single from the age of 30-40, the bible does not tell the age in which we should get married but says when you are mature and ready. Marriage is for matured people, you can be in the category of 30-40 and still not be matured. maturity has nothing to do with age but a mind set and a good sense of reasoning. i can categorise them in two. some have been due to cicumstances that are beyond them which they themselves are not happy about but nothing can be done while the other group was man made circumstance that has left them in that position like the writer said some have set too high a standard for themselves that are not realistic. On the other hand we all are not going to be married, its not a cause but if u desire it and have not set unrealistic standards for yourself its just a matter of time it will come to pass (time is something that we as humans do not have patient for, we are always in a hurry and we want it now) God knows best why not leave it to him continue to remind him, walk in his ways and be upright. Baba God will surprise you. We always want God to happen for us which is a good thing but we have to play our part to make God want to happen for us, he knows the end from the beginnning,just trust in him. Well if u are the type who do not desire to be married, just leave it well alone. it does not determine your level of success in life, the sky is your limit like everyone else. The bottom line of it all is that we all should live a meaningful life irrespective of your marital status. shalom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
  15. Peaches

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    All You Male obsessed women! Are you gonna exhaust this topic? Kilode? Enough is enough jo! I bet those male forumites are laughing at you all now. Arghhhh...HUSBAND THIS, HUSBAND THAT! Don't you Naija babes get tired sometimes? There is more to life than Men you know??
     
  16. Peaches

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    Isn't it interesting how people quote the bible when it's with regard to something that suits them? How come these same women who quote the bible - that it is God's stipulation to get married, are usually the ones to quickly ignore the commandment that says "thou shalt not commit fornication?". Hmm...when it suits you ladies, when it suits you.
     
  17. Obariba

    Obariba Koininonia

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    ....... like what ??
     
  18. Peaches

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    maybe you shouldn't be looking for a man if you don't know there is more to life. I can't believe you asked me that question.

    A lot of women are mentally immature for marriage if you ask me.
     
  19. Obariba

    Obariba Koininonia

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    emmm ...u have to back up ur words with suggestions and who says Im looking for a man ???

    So Im still asking Peaches what are the other things to life ??
    Just picking ur brain ...follow up with fact !!
     
  20. Obariba

    Obariba Koininonia

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    (sorry no link)



    Turn in your Bible to Psalm 65:4 (I'm reading from the New King James Bible). It says, Blessed is the man you choose and causes to approach you. That he may dwell in your courts and shall be satisfied with the goodness of your house...

    Pastor T.D. Jakes made a statement once that was morbid but SO true! He said that when choosing a mate, you need to ask yourself whether or not that person is the one you would want to hold your hand as you are lowering your parents' bodies into the grave for the last time. Ladies, that is serious. Meditate on that for a few seconds. Your entire perspective in terms of what you are searching for in a mate should be based on that one question.

    Are you dating? Think about your boyfriend. Is he seriously the one you would want holding your hands during the darkest hours of your life? Look even deeper. Is your present boyfriend the type who would offer you assistance during the time of grief? Believe it or not, there are numerous men out here who offer absolutely NO comfort to hurting women. And no, it does not matter whether they are married to those women or not!

    I wish you could see some of the personal letters this site receives from married women. Yes, some of them are happy, praise God! However, the ones who are not happy are absolutely miserable. There is no in-between. Either you are happy in a marriage or you are not. There are married women writing saying that their husbands never show authentic affection towards them, never offer expressions of love for them. That is real ladies. Because it is so real, God desires that women are exceptionally careful when choosing a mate. Notice I did not say that women should FIND a mate! I said "choose". There is a huge difference. Turn in your Bibles to Proverbs 18:22. It says that He who finds a wife finds a good thing... Interpretation:! MEN find women. Women should not be out trying to find a man! HOWEVER, once found, the woman can then choose to be with the man or to wait to be found by a different man.

    WHAT TO LOOK FOR WHEN CHOOSING A MATE:

    Proverbs 20:6 states, Who can find a faithful man? The fact that the question is asked is indicative of the fact that there are not many faithful men out there. However, there is good news. The good news is that JESUS knows where the faithful men are!

    Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary offers several excellent definitions of the word faithful:

    FAITHFUL:

    a. Steadfast in affection or allegiance

    b. Loyal

    c. Firm in adherence to promises or in observance of duty

    d. Conscientious

    The scriptures say that a faithful man is difficult to find. God is saying that it is hard to find a man with the qualities in letters a, b, c, and d. However, wouldn't you love to have a man with the qualities listed above? They are rare, ladies. But GOD knows where such men are located.

    Turn in your Bible to Ephesians 5:23. Scriptures state, For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word. That He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

    STOP! Now go back and re-read that passage. God is offering us a blueprint on what to look for in a mate. Let's pick that scripture apart.

    1. The husband is head of the wife - That means that you need to choose a man who is born-again. He also needs to be a man under whose authority you will feel comfortable submitting. It is dangerous to submit to the authority of a man who is not saved or who does not have a relationship with God.

    2. The husband must love his wife as Christ loves the Church - That is a tough one ladies! Look at the degree to which God loves His Church! He died for the Church (the entire body of Christ). How does God love us? He is respectful to the Church. He is intimate with the Church. He is kind and patient and nurturing to the Church. Those are the qualities you need to search for when determining who to marry.

    3. The husband must sanctify and cleanse and wash his wife with the Word of God - Again, only a born-again man can wash you with the Word of God (scriptures). Think about the dating ritual. Boy meets girl, they date, start to care deeply, and the subject of sex pops up.

    Question: HOW will the man handle it?

    God says that it is the responsibility of the man to see to it that he presents a woman clean and holy. If he is fornicating with her, how can he present her as clean and holy? Sex outside of the marriage bond is dirty. Therefore, if you find yourself with a man trying to fornicate with you, you have the wrong man.

    God says that He presents the Church (His bride!) without spot or wrinkle or blemish. Your future husband must present you at the altar without spot or wrinkle or blemish. Furthermore, even if you become weak and want to fornicate, he must be able to WASH you with God's Word. He is responsible for you! Ladies, this is important. Please listen so that you don't end up miserable.

    BECOMING ONE:

    In Ephesians 5:31 the scriptures state that For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church...

    God hates divorce. However, He also hates abuse. God does not want you being psychologically abused or tormented. He does not want you physically abused. And He certainly does not want you disrespected by a man committing adultery against you.

    Too many women in this country, in their quest for a man, are settling with men who are not worthy of them. The reason so many women are in unhappy marriages is because they latched onto the wrong man to please society or family or friends. Now they are stuck with a mean or unaffectionate or abusive wrong mate.

    Sister it is not too late for you. If you pick the right man from the beginning, you won't end up hurt and miserable (or divorced).

    Listen carefully. GOD says that when you marry, you become ONE with that person. God no longer sees you as separate but He sees you and your husband as ONE person. We cannot fully comprehend it because God says it's a great mystery!

    Think about your boyfriend. Do you see yourself becoming ONE with him? Can you imagine your soul being linked with his until death? If you have problems after marriage it's because something was broken before marriage (that was obviously ignored).

    If you do not have a boyfriend yet, GREAT! Now you know what to look for! When you marry, your soul becomes linked with your husband's. Too many women are getting married multiple times.

    God is not pleased with that. He sees it as adultery. It is His will that we marry once, create a family with that one person, and be happy...ecstatic in that marriage.

    The scriptures also state that the man shall leave his parents. Check out the family of the man that you are considering marrying! Are they always leaning on him, trying to borrow his money? Are you in agreement with them always calling him to the house to take care of their personal problems? Guess what? It won't end after marriage. If he is giving them money now, he will continue after marriage. If his family is leaching off of him now, they will after marriage. The question is, can you handle it? If not, now is the time to discuss the problem. Don't wait.

    There are too many men who refuse to leave their father and mother. There are too many women who refuse to leave their parents. Extended families are famous for breaking up marriages. NOW is the time to get the problems straight.

    Finally, how attracted are you to your future husband? Please do not marry a man if there is even a shadow of a doubt that you are totally attracted to him physically. Also, men, do not marry a women if you are not totally physically attracted to her. Too many women lose their husbands because after marriage they stop having sex. The reason many women stop having sex is because their husbands are cold, rude, and abusive. If you are married to a man who has the qualifications of the "faithful man" listed above in this article, you will be attracted to him forever, emotionally and physically! Women who don't want sex with their husbands are women who married the wrong man. PLEASE ladies; don't marry the wrong man. Wait.

    In Solomon 3:4 it is said, I found him whom my soul loves. The reason she found the one whom her soul loves is because she was PATIENT!

    Luke 21:19 says, In your patience possess ye your soul. The interpretation of that for a single woman is that if you are patient, you will meet the one whom your soul loves.
     
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