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Dating Your Best Friend's Ex

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by Sola, Jun 17, 2012.

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  1. Sola

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    By Blessing Ukemena

    The short answer to the question of whether or not you should date your best friend's ex is a simple 'No'. But then, love is anything but simple. There are times when love (the good love) comes from unpredictable angles.

    There have been stories when a girl dating guy 'A' would end up marrying guy 'B'. It cannot be helped sometimes, but that does not exactly mean that it is okay to date your friend's ex. Although they may not be dating each other, the person may feel stabbed in the back if her ex-boyfriend is now dating her best friend and vice versa.

    Like the case of Funmi and Deji; they were dating for about six months and they soon found out that they were not meant to be together. Unknown to Funmi, Deji had his eyes for her friend, Biola. Biola and Funmi were very close, but three months after the breakup, Funmi found out that Deji and Biola were dating and she became furious.

    A fight broke out between the two friends with Funmi hurling obscenities at Biola. Biola tried to explain to her friend Funmi about the situation, but Funmi only saw Biola as the real cause of her breakup with Deji and thus their friendship ended as well.

    Thus, the best thing is to stay away from your friend's ex, especially if you are very close because it can get quite uneasy for your friend to see you with her ex. So, this is uneasy ground to tread. Just in case you are caught in this situation, here are some tips you should keep in mind

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  2. Village-Boi

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    If love carries you in that direction then go for it but it is always a good idea to talk to your 'friend' about it first and try to get them on your side. Why? Because Cupid is a little midget sh*te with bad aim & shoots you in the a$$ when you least expect it. :sterb003:hbeat:
     
  3. Gen Sani Abacha

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    Then we should have Cupid sent to the guard room in the deserts of Gashua, Yobe State for some corrective disciplinary measures...mmm maybe that should be NDA for some military training on improving his aim and accuracy imn general...nor be so VB ?
     
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    General, LOL... or should tha be SOS?
     
  5. Gen Sani Abacha

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    Both would suffice I presume...:D
     
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    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    this thing called love...it's a tricky thing.
     
  7. Gen Sani Abacha

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    Abegi, come knack us beta tori young lady! :D
     
  8. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    lol.
    is it not? like my sis says, it's only for the brave.
    no tori to knack, just a close friend going through some love related issues and it's amusing watching her trying to figure out how to navigate the thing.

     
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  9. noone

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    Hmm tori longa-troat!

    You too like gist! How far? Any ex-love gist?:p
     
  10. kaymax

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    Something similar happened to me in undergrad. He said they were just friends, never dated, she said they went out a few times and she liked him. Lesson learned: Just don't go there. Not worth it, not worth it all.
     
  11. Gen Sani Abacha

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    Course I love stories...life is made up of stories...gist ? Me ah no get gist gi una again oh...Oya, yu nko ? Yu fit date ya friends ex ?
     
  12. Gen Sani Abacha

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    If positions were reversed and the friend in question would do that to you or had done that to you nko ?
     
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    The girl was really a colleague more than a friend, and was delusional. Nevertheless, it wasn't even worth it, lesson learned and your point well taken.
     
  14. Gen Sani Abacha

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    Kool...I don't advocate going there generally either...with friends who would do that to you without a second thought, I guess they were never really friends in the first place...In which case, one could question the character of that person's ex as well and conclude...not worth going there.
     
  15. noone

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    I don't know if I 'fit', but I'd rather not...it just wouldn't feel right especially if we were friends when they were dating but things happen and I've seen enough of life to know that...
     
  16. Village-Boi

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    I still blame that silly sproglet the little runt-of-the-litter called Cupid. Wey him so he can get a collective beating?!! When his mates were becoming cherubs he decided to pick up bow and arrow with that his epileptic hand. Hissssss!!
     
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    That's the thing VeeBee! It's easy to say I no 'fit' but when that midget carry him 'ochu-nta' and fire person...well, who knows what the result will be. I wouldn't want to but let's hope cupid doesn't have it in for you...
     
  18. Gen Sani Abacha

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    True dat...As for me, I've always gone out of my way to not let that happen, even when there were genuine feelings of mutual attraction/affection...mmmm...just like you stated I'd rather not go there.
     
  19. Gen Sani Abacha

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    That's why I carry a shield to repel that yeye lil baby's arrows, if/when they strike home I pull them out, take some anti-cupid tablets and whup his cute lil behind...I show Cupid who da daddy is...:D
     
  20. Village-Boi

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    Hahahahaha tufiakwa... them no born that midget to near me; you know how many Praying & Fasting Plc members be my friends? Na them give me oliginal isi-aki as armour.
     
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