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Difference between a 'woman' and a 'wife'....

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by ssergit, Dec 11, 2012.

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  1. ssergit

    ssergit ..still The Drama Queen!

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    First: I am one to SUPPORT any woman who has to carry the family THROUGH a trying time TM. marriage is a PARTNERSHIP! I don't think I have ever personally insinuated that I would marry a ready-made millionaire! I believe in building a home TOGETHER!
    Both parties would have to LIFT the other up at one point in time in the marriage! Perhaps I should have elaborated by giving you more info. That this dude is JOBLESS!! ALWAYS expecting "some money"! But in the meantime, he never forgets to collect her money to go shack with the boys! And of course! He is cheating on her!!!

    2. This last beating the landed her in hospital, she said dude was drunk! And he beat her almost to unconsciousness IN FRONT OF HER 7 year old kid!! (not his kid)!! You know how scarred that kid is now for life?? And this is not the first beating!

    3. So, when she told me she is having an abortion I should have started clapping for her????? I did what a friend would do! I asked her IF SHE IS SURE SHE WANNA DO THAT! She said yes! And I left her with "think more about this!" . I am a woman, and I understand that if I was in her shoes, and leaving such a marriage with pains, hurt and bad memories, I probably would NOT want a child that would be a constant REMINDER of the monster I was married to! And i am not a supporter of abortion! There are couples who would be blessed with adopting such a kid anyway! And so many great men and women today could have been aborted fetuses if their mothers did not make the ultimate sacrifice of giving birth to them, and even leaving them in foster system or adoption. #JustSaying!

    4. It has NOTHING to do with age, after all I am 40! And I don't see myself panicking about babies, because I have seen a 51 year old give birth recently! And of course, there are other options to having bigger kids.
     
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    ssergit ..still The Drama Queen!

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    Sweetheart, LOVE DON HURT! And love that is one-sided is shit! Sodiafore, if you love a man and the man loves you right back, he WILL NOT TELL YOU TO EAT DETI FROM THE GUTTER! QED! Abi? because he knows that even if you mumuly eat it and get sick, shebi he has to be there to take care of you? And na money hin go spend for treatment! lol. So, he would be hurting himself too!

    Sure, some or all of us have done some crazy shit when it comes to love when younger!....but isnt that where people GROW UP and learn from their mistakes!?

    I will tell you this from my personal experience, love alone will NOT keep a marriage intact! It is a whole new university! In fact the love GROWS more maturedly IN THE MARRIAGE! This is no longer the situation you can pick up your bag and walk away from a boyfriend or girlfriend when they piss you off! lolol.
    Now, there is a contract/covenant/vows! So, a whole lot of other things come in to mix with the love. Because you are stuck with each other, unless you go the divorce route! Before then, no bag-walking-out-the-door-O! lol
     
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