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Do Naija guys propose?

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You are a woman after my own very heart!!!!! Thank you, jare. A lady can't be too affectionate with a man especially a Nigerian man and forget the flirting accusation....that one na small thing...because next thing you know he thinks you are a mumu. A naija man's first perspective when you lay your card on the table is to assume that you desperate which account for why you treat him so nice.

And if a chick plays hard to get and a guy goes then he was there for a quick visit. I say bye bye because if you think that you should have to work hard, court/woo, dine and wine a lady and take time to get to know her...everything should just be handed to you on a platter then shove off, please. The quicker you do it the better for me, blessing blocker!

Na now you jump ship? Girl, I jump ship since since!!!! When the last Nigerian man showed me pepper. I packed my green passport in a box and buried in under a tree. I will only date a Nigeria man if he came with a personal note from Jesus.
You've just broken my heart in .22 places, cos i've been nursing a secret crush on you. I've been tryna sum up courage to declare my affections for you...:(
 

kolinzo

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Let's stick to the point of this thread! The question is: Do Naija guys propose?

Well, we do propose...even back in the 15th century!! Shuuu, my great grand papa proposed to my great grand mama. And it came down the chain till it reached my papa. So what do you call when me and my friends meet your people to ask for your hands in marriage with Bacchus, Ogogoro--> Schnapps (sp) -in Yoruba, Shinapshinap:) - (this is different from dowry oh)?
 
You know sad to say, I have actually heard what Estella, and others, are saying from women, Nigerian, white and African-American, about Nigerians guys that they have dated. I get to hear the stories because they say, "You're not like the other Nigerian guy I dated"... Saying it, sadly, as a compliment.

But I find those bad situations come from Naija guys who have rooted themselves in the old archaic ways of treating women. African love. There tends to be no wooing, or 'western' courtship, or equality within the relationship. Constantly putting the woman in checkmate.

I say 'western' deliberately because this is the excuse given by some of us Nigerian men when confronted with the demands of the modern Nigerian woman. The women get accused of being too 'westernized'. But it is disingenuous on the part of the men. When it suits them, they act western, when it benefits them, they claim culture. I know Naija guys who do this.

I know this happens on the female side as well. I have been accused of not dating Nigerian women because I'm too 'akata' by fellow Nigerian women and men I know... And I, for the most part, have not. No particular reason, other than it has just been the case. Nationality does not play a big part for me when it comes to a woman... Although it's true I always detested the 'African Love' wooing. The lady doth protest and the constant chasing just because has always been bothersome to me. I'm of the modern school of thought that two adults should be able to decide whether they want each other without some 'rules' to follow or checklist to be satisfied.

However, race does. I might date a white woman, but I can't marry one... I don't grudge people that do, I have 2 white aunts, but I made a conscious effort to be true to the struggle. Just my personal choice.....

Kikis has a big fight on her hands now because I want you wether she likes it or not!

You are the one!
 

Folashade

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u right

You are a woman after my own very heart!!!!! Thank you, jare. A lady can't be too affectionate with a man especially a Nigerian man and forget the flirting accusation....that one na small thing...because next thing you know he thinks you are a mumu. A naija man's first perspective when you lay your card on the table is to assume that you desperate which account for why you treat him so nice.

And if a chick plays hard to get and a guy goes then he was there for a quick visit. I say bye bye because if you think that you shouldn't have to work hard, court/woo, dine and wine a lady and take time to get to know her...everything should just be handed to you on a platter then shove off, please. The quicker you do it the better for me, blessing blocker!

Na now you jump ship? Girl, I jump ship since since!!!! When the last Nigerian man showed me pepper, salt and bitterleaf, I packed my green passport in a box and buried in under a tree. I will only date a Nigeria man if he came with a personal note from Jesus.
its a pity most guys think that way. hmm, i must say that ur last statement is very funny!sweat: you go gal!!!
 

angeleyez

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@estrella, angeleyez and blackbutterfly. Take it from someone who knows, a real man (and I use the word real literally) is energized by the intrigue of the chase. When it comes to the chase, I don't like aggressive women. Personally, I realized that anytime a gurl had made the first move, that relationship always never ends well.

Bottom line, I don't care what any guy says, aggressive women are so not sexy. A guy who really wants you isn't gonna get turned off by a few shakara. I like it when a gurl plays hard to get....I take that as a challenge, and what I'll do is try to up my game.

O pari
Mr. LuvM, hard to get is all baby moves to me, why waste time? If you like the bobo, why pretend? Some guys do not fancy the chase at all. They ask you once and you say no they are moving on. A woman that is aggressive in telling a guy she's attracted to him does not mean she isn't submissive or that she is aggressive overall. She just happen to know what she wants.
 

His Majesty

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cos i wanna propose to bbfly girl ? :box
Lay off da crack dawg...smokin:
And by the way, GSA, you don dey slack o. So r u gonna give up b'cos da babe say she ain't gonna mess wiv naija dudes? C'mon now, dat wan na shakara now. When it comes to toasting, NO doesn't always means no:spiny:

Omo, come mek i give a few tips on how to chat up a lady, yanno. I call it the A-B-C of putting the moves on her - much like the do's and don't's of talking to a chic. And before you know it, she's eating outta your hands. Guaranteed!grinning:
 

His Majesty

The Prince & Princess
Mr. LuvM, hard to get is all baby moves to me, why waste time? If you like the bobo, why pretend? Some guys do not fancy the chase at all. They ask you once and you say no they are moving on. A woman that is aggressive in telling a guy she's attracted to him does not mean she isn't submissive or that she is aggressive overall. She just happen to know what she wants.
Hmmm. May be it's me but, anytime a gurl had made the first move, I'll always end up taking that relationship for granted. And it had happened more than once as well:(
 

angeleyez

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Hmmm. May be it's me but, anytime a gurl had made the first move, I'll always end up taking that relationship for granted. And it had happened more than once as well:(
@highlight. See why it never works, why take it for granted? Sometimes women will see what they want and admire from afar until the guy finds another girl and then the hating begins. Why not go after what you want, what you need? That's the way I see it. Why waste time waiting for some guy to ask you out and then finding out later he is an ***?
 
And by the way, GSA, you don dey slack o. So r u gonna give up b'cos da babe say she ain't gonna mess wiv naija dudes? C'mon now, dat wan na shakara now. When it comes to toasting, NO doesn't always means no:spiny:

Omo, come mek i give a few tips on how to chat up a lady, yanno. I call it the A-B-C of putting the moves on her - much like the do's and don't's of talking to a chic. And before you know it, she's eating outta your hands. Guaranteed!grinning:
Hey doncha know what's been happening ? Me n' bbfly ave already been doing our thing privately!
 

paj

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No we NAIJA-GUYS no dey frofose o!......
We go just set trap for junction and hide inside bush dey wait, soon as the girl of our choice dey waka pass, we go just pull the rope GBAM! we don catch am be dat.... Na straight home and nacking go start, b4 u know am junior and im sister don land... Four years later, we and the wife wey we no frofose to don get a big happy formilk.
...Nna abeg U fit pim me di address of dat junction?:confused: All the babes wey dey pass awa Area WOOOHWWWOOOOOH...two weeks and no pull rope....:confused:
Pa
 
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