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Discussion in 'NEWS, BOOKS, CULTURE' started by Mkgirl, Sep 18, 2011.
@ highlighted.....abi o. Imagine.
@ second highlights....thank you ojare.
Really??? When she used to attack and bully others, I don't see you coming out of the blues to warn her! When was the last time you saw me writing like this on NR??? Huh?!
Abeg Sola, stay out of this one! As long as no one is breaking your policy, allow us get this over! She should learn to IGNORE people whose posts she does NOT like or there would be constant friction! This is a topic that is VERY sensitive to me, YOU KNOW IT! I posted that story here on NR since 2004! This woman here has been a member on NR long enough to KNOW NOT to attack me on a personally sensitive topic!
That your rule of people being free to reference others SHOULD NOT APPLY WHEN THE SAID PEOPLE HAVE HISTORY OF AGRO FROM THE PAST! PLEASE PUT THAT CLAUSE IN!
In fact, I like to be quoted, but it should be WITHOUT ANY NEGATIVE EMOTION, NO PAST HANG UPS AND NO HIDDEN SILLY INTENTION!
QUOTE me and criticize my posts SENSIBLY and CONSTRUCTIVELY and please say/give your sensible REASON! not just for the sake of posting!
The sane thing to do when someone posts something you don't like is MOVE ON IGNORE!! And if you must respond, then, make sure you understand the person's posts or Point of View (collate more than ONE post to make that decision)!
Your member here likes to have a bully/victim to attack all the time! And it shall NOT BE ME!
Enough. That's me asking politely. The issues in this thread are too critical for this insignificant asides. Enough. Thank you.
Same question I asked and dem wan tear my head off!
Times I've asked [what they call] 'weird' questions like this on NR, it turned out correct!
Dem think say because all of us get keyboard mean say our brains think at same speed? hisssss
you go ban me. I get it. Because of this posts with one person abi? smh.
I thought personal confrontations do not warrant banning on NR. Ok. Tell them to stop quoting me. And peace go reign, As usual.
ssergit, really it's not worth it.
we can take it to pm.
you keep on referencing dsampler. when you start posting like dsampler, i will treat you like dsampler.
but you cannot, and will not stop me from responding to whatever i damn well please.
I don't want to drag this on any further but as a victim (ssergit) don't you feel a sense of responsibility. We are not talking about the US here. We are talking about a country were even women would blame a victim for "making herself available" to a rapist. Don't we have a social and moral responsibilty to not even say things like that. It is like hearing that a man murdered his wife and you come in and say how do we know that she did not provoke him to do it. We should not even say it. If anything we should use this to address this stigma in our society. It is an epidemic. If this girl is reading what you posted do you think it will encourage her to come out. Think about it. You are educated, enlightened, well travelled, succesful etc and yet you are saying this. Imagine what the average village person is thinking. maybe it is a good thing that she does not come out. I don't think anyone is biting off your head. i think we were honestly shocked that you would say that. especially since you understand the pain
sweetie, you and I have done that PM thing too long already, i no think say E dey work, bicos, you for consider PM before you tell me say I dey make you cry, you no think so? Check am naw. You pulled my wrong button, and I responded.
And next time my username post and you quote me, I go respond back kwa without sentiments.
I referenced DSampler because that is another known member you bullied and stalked for too long, and you seem to want to add me to that string, and it shall NOT happen!
Ssergit, my dearest, I hereby ORDER you to remain calm, okay? We all have read through the thread, and trust, there is no big deal those posts. We are all getting worked up because we have a bunch useless axx-wholes masquerading as government agents and officers. I can understand our frustrations but do we have to take it out on one another? I agree with TM, two of you can easily communicate via pm and trash this out. For me, I don't see anything inside unless there's more to what I-man eyes can read, abeg. Life is too short, why waste time pinching ourselves?
i thank you for this post.
sweetie, obviously there are still some lingering issues that i am not aware of, as i am not sure why my saying that i cried when reading your posts is enough to warrant the response you gave.
sifu just said what i was saying, i found it as surprising (and very saddening) that as a victim, you actually thought that she was a willing participant in this.
Sifu, it is one thing for me to post a lone statement and say "Hey, this video is fake" and another thing for me to post a frustrating question " this video has all the info to identify the culprits and the victim for her to be saved from herself, why is there a dead end to all this, could it be fake?"
I did NOT make a lone statement, emphatically. In each post, I STATED and still wish it is not fake! So that JUSTICE can weild her sword!
if this girl is reading my posts [I pray she is], let my even OPENLY saying I am a victim too make her step forward!
Let my 'weird' comment CHALLENGE her to come out! Let it show her that she can do what some of us could NOT do! [I did not report the bastard, even when my father drilled me, I lied to him that I don't know who did it, as I was sure my father would 'publicize' the matter for justice's sake, and I did NOT want the stigma!].
But life has changed now! Things are now a bit different from the time when I was violated.
Remember Anita Hogan? Her images were not rape, but still a violation of her privacy, but she survived the embarrassment and shame.
My questions/posts are in NO WAY to make the victim feel bad, but to let her know that she would be supported and helped! After all, I am NOT an unknown face behind the PC here, my name, address, telephone numbers, emails are all over the Internet! Sifu, RAPE IS STILL STIGMATIZED in Nigeria! I am a Nigerian! People are reading my posts! They can link my posts to my face, to my career, to what I do! heck, even my family would see this! My first love, left me because I told him I was raped, we had stayed celibate together! He dumped me! In his words "You went and got raped! Why didnt you allow me disvirgin you all these while? Now some bastard took what is mine!!: That is the ONLY words I heard from him! So, my dear, even in this adult age, I've seen the face of a guy or two change when they asked me how I lost my V, and I say - rape! Men, people DON'T want to hear that! I know. I know the repercussion of even openly saying this on NR! but for how long are we gonna let men get away with this? I was ready in 2008 and openly embarrass the bastard that raped me, but learnt he died 3 years before then! I was MAAAAAD!!! Death robbed me of the chance to do something! And am still mad about it!
This girl can DO SOMETHING now! And she will heal better.
I understand that stepping out is NOT easy, even in the US here with all the strict rape laws, it is hard to get some victims to step forward and persecute. I know all that.
Sifu, I am the one person that can make ask that question! Being a victim myself! And my comment can produce two consequences!
- Make her realize that she would be helping a lot of past, present and future victims. Help her know that there are so many of us counting on her! We may have gotten over it, but we plan to help others. there are works in the pipeline for a Hot Line for raped women/girls to call in for counseling.
OR, if for some perverted and twisted reason this video is not real, then let whoever did it know that they are doing more HARM to rape laws than good! So that in future, people don't see a real rape video, and not believe it as real! :(
you are now saying willing participant and it is different from you earlier saying she 'could not have faked it' WHEN YOU NEVER SAW the VIDEO! There is a difference here. And if you check Violent Sex websites, you would see girls in real pain and bleeding who were paid to do that. (This is a statement I want to stop saying here so that it is not misconstrued as me saying the ABSU victim was acting).
My even contributing on this thread in the first place is to hear that the bastards are locked up! Or better yet, CASTRATED with a peppered hot knife! it was after other comments, links, articles and denials that I asked that question [that is putting you all off]. Think about it! Read my posts again in chronological order......
Rudie dear, me and TM are good. We used to fight this way when we were friends. She vent, I vent. No biggie. Yes, I agree, this should have been taken to PM from get go so that this thread is not derailed. The important and bigger issue here is that we are all VERY interested in this matter to be taken care of! And a victim treated and justice prevailing.
I am calm dear. But I am still angry that we are not hearing anything from the police!!!! I wanted to organize a rally on this matter at the Nigerian Embassy for October 1st. but not knowing the names of the culprits and the victim to prove that this is definitely a real crime is frustrating!
I don't want to step out now and carry this in my radical/advocate way and it turns out otherwise. That would mess up my project for rape victims in future. You get what I mean? i NEED to know the names of the people in the video!
I really find the above and I want to know who the hell you think you are here on NR? You are an ordinary member like the rest of us. Make we see the yeye fingers you used in typing the above nonsense
In the voice of Kathy Wakile of RHWONJ kuku kuku
Make we diffuse this situation like I saw on TV one time.
....oya, make evrybody step away from their computa,..raise up your hands in the air, and follow me count 500 alligators, by the time you finish counting your anger go don vermuse. oya.....
one alligator, two alligator, three alligator, four alligator,........make una continue,...I dey come..smokin:
let us know when you return and you can continue from where you stopped
When they never match go meet your uncle, the Gov or did you forget that one or did you lie to us? Let me know if you want the link and this time you will drop some money for it.
Nne, no dey take this thing dey laugh o. Na real surebanker anger management trick, and it works all the time. Even me sef, I dey use am.
BTW,...for TM, she go need at least one million alligators. roll
LMAO!!!!!! abeg, TM no vex. Its only a joke. rollroll