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Getting out of the friend zone

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by Sola, Jun 26, 2012.

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  1. Sola

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    By Kelvin Igbodo

    Last time, we started with pointers that show that she likes you; today, we shall complete the lesson with pointers to help you get yourself out of the friend zone and possibly into the boyfriend zone.

    The golden rule: Never express your feelings directly. Don’t tell her you see her as more than a friend; this is a major wrong move.

    So here’s what you do:

    1. You don’t need her: I know you do but don’t make it so obvious. Don’t be there always, don’t pick her call before it rings, don’t give her a special ringtone or save her name on your phone as ‘angel’. The trick is to focus on yourself, be engulfed in projects, hobbies etc. This gives you a legitimate excuse to blow her off sometimes and “make it up to her” later. In this make up time, give her the time of her life and then, disappear again.

    2. You find her attractive but she has competition: When you get to be with her randomly, make sure you notice other girls and comment on their beauty, anything to make her a bit jealous; however, this should be done in moderation. When she says something like “You’re just an ‘ashawo’”; this is a good time to say “Relax babe, they still aren’t as beautiful as you”.

    3. You have high standards: Talk about the things you desire in a woman and use them to qualify her. Don’t wait for her to start telling you her preferences, put her on the back foot. Tell her you could hook up with any girl but you’re yet to find the one with (insert your preferences here); she will most likely tell you what she likes as well.

    4. You are a sexual being: Yes. Talk about sex. Talk of the things you would love to experiment. While talking about this, watch her reaction carefully; if she seems uncomfortable, this is a red flag. You should stop. If she giggles shyly, bingo! However, don’t talk about sex too much before you look like a pervert. Moderation is the key here.

    5. Break the touch barrier: Now this is quite risky. It requires lots of tact. The problem is that most of us Nigerian guys don’t pay attention. There are certain moods and scenarios that play out, but because we are so myopic, we miss them. Touch is a very sensual thing and can change your status from Mr Friendzone to Mr Boyfriend if applied right. Have you held her hand? I’m not talking of while you’re crossing Ikorodu Road. You’re sitting and having a conversation, comment on her bracelet, then take her hand in yours and feel the jewellery. Touching someone communicates you find them attractive and you are confident.

    The major point to getting out of the friend zone is making sure that you don’t appear too needy; be scarce while still being there (at your convenience). I hope these points work for you; if not, I’m sure fishes haven’t finished in the sea. Throw your line somewhere else and you just might be lucky.

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  2. kaymax

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    Kelvin, or whoever the author of the abovementioned article is: Here is a tip for you: You will NOT be getting past the friend zone anytime soon!!!
     
  3. tunmi

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    This is funny. Some people will just always be in the friendzone, there is no if and or but about it. If the woman is not attracted to you, beyond friendship attraction, then you're gonna be friendzoned. I can't speak for guys but I can assume it is.
     
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    No need to speak for guys, however, if the chick ain't feeling you, no amount of 'games' you can play will change that. If you are a friend, it's tough to get outta there, IF you get out. We're either feeling you or we're not, you do not have to go thru all that.
     
  5. kolinzo

    kolinzo Oodua4life

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    Hmm...can you possibly not feel a guy and be friends with him? Hmm?
     
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    Huh? did I miss something? If I'm feeling a guy, I'd want to be more than friends with him. WE can do the Platonic thing, most men cannot, but we can.
     
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    kolinzo Oodua4life

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    Good! So how do you break out of friendszone to girlfriendzone? Women always say they can do the platonic thing but men know they're simply fronting. When the opportunity comes, na different story o. A guy who's observant and patient can sell water to a well.
     
  8. kaymax

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    It can happen, because we emote differently than you, so while you are simply 'frontin', we're thinking that we're developing a relationship with you as a friend. You can take a big risk/chance and attempt to take it to the next level, but lemme ask you, what signs will the 'observant' guy need to see while he's being patient in order to make his move?
     
  9. Village-Boi

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    You have to eat akara when it is hot out of the frying-pan... simple as that. Friendzone? You might as well waka go Pluto. I no dey do my 'friends' and have no interest in doing my friends... 'friends with benefits' no really be 'friend', so doesn't count.
     
  10. Gen Sani Abacha

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    Maazi VB! Ebube Dike!! Eze ndi Nwanyi Gburugburu!!! :D
     
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