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blackpearl

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Normally I do not go about sharing stuffs like this but I would just like to know people's opinions about this particular topic I would like to share. Yes, in some kind of way I am stuck and somewhat I do not want to give any advice because if the kasala bursts I really do not want my name to be mentioned in this mess.

Fine here it goes.
I have two friends Banke and Asake (fictional names, so don't bother). Now Banke met this guys at the beginning of the year and really liked him. They were friends at first and ended up hooking up. He eventually came to see her (since he does not live in the same state Banke lives in). And since the both of them were not too sure on how this would end, they decided not to let anybody else know. Banke confided in her friend Asake and Asake was angry with her but didn't tell her. Well Asake, ends up going to work and told one of her friends at work what Banke had done. Asake was not aware that her friend at work recorded the conversation because Asakes friend at work actually knows BANKE.

So mr man travels back to where he came from, and is beefing with Banke. Banke now asked him why he was so upset, that one now gave her the download on the matter, not knowing that Asakes friend at work, knows someone that is connected to the bobo. ( lol, i know confusing story ). They decide to still try and see what goes from there but Banke lied to Asake telling her that they are no longer together. In the mean time Banke had heard everything that Asake had said, and was shocked to say the least.

Banke decided to keep quiet and say nothing. Why I do not know. Anyway, fast forwarding a couple of months. Now Asake spoke to Banke and told her that d bobo seems to be hitting on her. Since Banke had told Asake that they are not together, she couldn't tell her that they actually dated for a couple of months and then broke up. So Asake now asks Banke if she would have a problem with that. Banke now lied to Asake and told her she doesn't have a problem with that and she would be happy if it works out between them. (well bobo broke up with Banke about 2 weeks ago, so the wound is still fresh) Asake herself is already thinking of marriage and what not....


Now Banke comes running to me to ask me for advice, what would you say?


* My thoughts were she should have told Asake right from day one about what she said or at least confront her. She did not. Again, I understand people want their privacy and stuffs and I can relate to the fact that you wouldn't want everyone to know who you are dating, especially when people expect you to settle down very soon. I feel Banke should have told her that she doesn't feel comfy with it. At the end of the day the decision is really with Asake and there is nothing much she can do but at least tell her how she felt would have been important. Then concerning the bobo, I mean seriously? Hitting on two friends? I have no comment on that, well not for now! *
 

Supermom

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Help me out here...Why exactly was Asake angry with Banke when she confided in her? Was it because she confided in her or she was angry about who she was boinking? What really did Banke do that caused her to be offended or annoyed?
 

blackpearl

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Help me out here...Why exactly was Asake angry with Banke when she confided in her? Was it because she confided in her or she was angry about who she was boinking? What really did Banke do that caused her to be offended or annoyed?
Great question! Banke ended up playing the recording to me. Basically, Asake was just hating on her for always getting dem fine men and how come no one is hollaring her bla bla bla. I believe all Asake said was out of mere jelousy.
 

Supermom

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Great question! Banke ended up playing the recording to me. Basically, Asake was just hating on her for always getting dem fine men and how come no one is hollaring her bla bla bla. I believe all Asake said was out of mere jelousy.
First of all you don't go and chop where our friend has chopped even if She tells you it's ok...
My advise Banke should kick Asake and Ex...bobo/friend to the curb...they are both totally not it....and deserve each other...

Erm Asake Na your friend too? I will watch my back with that one....
 

kaymax

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First of all you don't go and chop where our friend has chopped even if She tells you it's ok...
My advise Banke should kick Asake and Ex...bobo/friend to the curb...they are both totally not it....and deserve each other...

Erm Asake Na your friend too? I will watch my back with that one....

We shouldn't even mention him, he's an irrelevant sack of shyt!!! But Banke shoul'dve talked her friend, and hashed out right there and then, the fact that this did not happen shows me the friendship was not that strong. People make mistakes and shyt happens, what defines real friendship is the ability to be able to work through issues like these. They were both wrong, they should talk, if they're interested in saving the friendship, that is.
 

blackpearl

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First of all you don't go and chop where our friend has chopped even if She tells you it's ok...
My advise Banke should kick Asake and Ex...bobo/friend to the curb...they are both totally not it....and deserve each other...

Erm Asake Na your friend too? I will watch my back with that one....
Not friends with Asake. We only greet each other. Trust me this place has thought me a lesson already....
 

blackpearl

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We shouldn't even mention him, he's an irrelevant sack of shyt!!! But Banke shoul'dve talked her friend, and hashed out right there and then, the fact that this did not happen shows me the friendship was not that strong. People make mistakes and shyt happens, what defines real friendship is the ability to be able to work through issues like these. They were both wrong, they should talk, if they're interested in saving the friendship, that is.
I can't tell how strong their friendship is to be candid. With all the things that have been said on that record, I doubt that there was any type of friendship. There is just a level you do not cross, no matter how angry or jelous you can be. Jelousy is really an awful thing!
 

blackbutterfly

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Oh boy, person no fit tok again o without fear of being taped by so-called friends...what is this world turning into? It was like that when Paris Hilton was in a cab talking to her friend and the cab driver was busy recording her to sell to tabloids now personal friends are doing it too? I must now be checking purses, glasses, lapels, watches and cell phones for recording devices? Na wah o! As for Banke, she needs to drop them all - the Asake person and the ex bobo...dem all need to go, too many trust issues, abeg. I bet you my bottom dollar the Asake girl took herself to the bobo and not the other way around.
 
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