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His Majesty

The Prince & Princess
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I've known this church member for over 5 years with his wife and 2 beautiful daughters. He was never a friend but we often exchange pleasantries.
Today, I walked into a restaurant with my wife and saw him sitting with a youngish looking lady. My first instinct was that she was his co-worker or a business associate. I naively asked how he was doing and how are his wife and kids. He muffled "fine". I found that his response was kind of ambivalent and nonchalant so we promptly proceeded to our seat as led by the waitress.
I then heard the young lady yelled " How dare you lied to me" followed by a splashing noise and when I looked back, the guy was wet and the large cup of coke and ice on their table appeared empty.

The girl then bailed towards the bathroom in tears and He followed her saying" It's not what you are thinking". I told my wife that we needed to leave ASAP but she then sat comfortably like someone waiting to see the conclusion of a movie. I held her wrist, grind my teeth and calmly but seriously said let's get out of here now and she complied........
My wife didn't think I did any thing wrong but I felt so bad for ruining someone's date.

My questions are:
Was I wrong for asking about his family in front of another lady?
Do I call him and offer an apology?
What do I do when I next see him?
Should I just skip church for about a month and see what happen?
Was I wrong to leave the restaurant?

I really feel bad for the dude and thanks in advance for your input.
 

Supermom

Well-Known Member
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Wow...now I have really heard it all..You really feel bad for the dude....Did I read right? Really? For being caught in adultery? Man of God? I can't even form the words...You condemn all the gay people vehemently...You didn't remember to condemn him? Why didn't you quote all the scriptures to him? Abi you forget? All the long sermons wey you dey write here...you no get anyone for this holy brother...I shy..
 

Sola

Administrator
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Abeg, has he accused you of doing something wrong? Until that happens, you owe no one an explanation. And next time you see a married man with a babe, just shake hands and carri jaw comot b4 your mout drive you waka unpaved road.
Wow...now I have really heard it all..You really feel for the dude....Did I read right? Really? For being caught in adultery? Man of God? I can't even form the words...You condemn all the gay people vehemently...You didn't remember to condemn him? Why didn't you quote all the scriptures to him? Abi you forget? All the long sermons wey you dey write here...you no get anyone for this holy brother...I shy..
I don't see what's wrong with his reaction? I'm sure this thread can be addressed on its own worth.
 

His Majesty

The Prince & Princess
#4
Wow...now I have really heard it all..You really feel bad for the dude....Did I read right? Really? For being caught in adultery? Man of God? I can't even form the words...You condemn all the gay people vehemently...You didn't remember to condemn him? Why didn't you quote all the scriptures to him? Abi you forget? All the long sermons wey you dey write here...you no get anyone for this holy brother...I shy..
First of all, nobody is condoning adultery if he was actually having an affair. I didn't catch him in the act, mind you. I'm not a psychic so there's no way I'd know whether he was having an affair with this lady or was planning to have one.

So let's base the discussion on what we know, alright? Oya, go answer da qweshion
 

His Majesty

The Prince & Princess
#5
Abeg, has he accused you of doing something wrong? Until that happens, you owe no one an explanation. And next time you see a married man with a babe, just shake hands and carri jaw comot b4 your mout drive you waka unpaved road.
I don't see what's wrong with his reaction? I'm sure this thread can be addressed on its own worth.
Thank you, my broadagrinning:
 

Supermom

Well-Known Member
#6
So if you don't know that he's done anything, why exactly are you complaining that you are in serious trouble? How is asking for his wife and kids such an issue that you are panicking? What's the basis of this thread? Please....
 

Supermom

Well-Known Member
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Abeg, has he accused you of doing something wrong? Until that happens, you owe no one an explanation. And next time you see a married man with a babe, just shake hands and carri jaw comot b4 your mout drive you waka unpaved road.
I don't see what's wrong with his reaction? I'm sure this thread can be addressed on its own worth.

I am calling it as it is.....learning from Him
 

ssergit

..still The Drama Queen!
#9
I cosign with Supermom. What is the thread about? From the reaction, you can see that dude was LYING to the lady! and did NOT say about his marital status, so, YES< he was CHEATING or ABOUT to CHEAT! So, you shoulda advised him to LIVE A HOLY LIFE! And Not feel bad that you were divinely sent to SAVE THAT YOUNG GIRL FROM BEING USED AND DUMPED!

Men!!!! Infact, anytime I see any guy I know with any woman that is not their wife, i shall very well REMEMBER to ask him about 'family, wife and kids'! Thank you!
 

Flomari

Well-Known Member
#11
You didn't do anything wrong,don't call and apologize ,when next u c am beat him up ,He can't stop u from going to church
Go to church and praise God. Hey you can even testify about that event .men hm. I love your wife's style o and why were you running away anyway.this was bound to happen at some point and God used you on that day
 

adjojata42

Well-Known Member
#12
HM it wasn't intentional, so hey there is nothing wrong with asking about his wife and kids in front of the lady. Like ssergit said, maybe it was a divine intervention to save an innocent woman.
 

His Majesty

The Prince & Princess
#14
I cosign with Supermom. What is the thread about? From the reaction, you can see that dude was LYING to the lady! and did NOT say about his marital status, so, YES< he was CHEATING or ABOUT to CHEAT! So, you shoulda advised him to LIVE A HOLY LIFE! And Not feel bad that you were divinely sent to SAVE THAT YOUNG GIRL FROM BEING USED AND DUMPED!

Men!!!! Infact, anytime I see any guy I know with any woman that is not their wife, i shall very well REMEMBER to ask him about 'family, wife and kids'! Thank you!
Haha!! Trouble maker:roll:roll
 

Thickmadam

OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!
#15
Facts:
Married church member
Seen in a restaurant with a youngish looking lady, who is not his wife.
Gave an ambivalent and nonchalant response when asked how wife and kids are doing.
YOUNG WOMAN YELLS "HOW DARE YOU LIED TO ME"
A splashing noise follows.
Married church member is wet, cup of coke appears empty.
Young woman bails toward bathroom in tears
Married church member follows saying "IT'S NOT WHAT YOU ARE THINKING"
His Majesty feels bad for ruining someone's date WITH A YOUNGISH WOMAN WHO IS NOT WIFE.

My questions are:
why would a married man not enthusiastically, gush about the health and wellbeing of his wife and beautiful kids, when a fellow church brother asks, and in the presence of his "friend"?
why would his lunch companion YELL that he lied to her?
why did she yell that he lied to her right after he was asked about his wife and kids?
why is he on a date with someone who is not his wife?
why would she throw a large cup of coke on married church brother right after you asked about his wife and kids?
why did she yell that he LIED to her?
more importantly, why did he say "it's not what you're thinking?"
why exactly are you in serious trouble?
what is the trouble you are in exactly?
why do you feel bad for ruining someone's date with someone who is NOT his wife
what exactly are you feeling bad about?

My conclusions (since I know I am on your ignore list and you're not going to answer my questions):
Based on your own words and your own observations, I have come to the obvious conclusion that your church brother is a lying cheating stinking SINNING adulterer who is going to hell unless he repents.
I cannot help but conclude, just from the fact that you felt bad about ruining someone's DATE (your own words, brother, your own words) that you actually condone adultery and this adulterer's actions and behaviour.

My suggestions:
Next time you see him, please apologize heartily for ruining his date with someone who is not his wife, and wish him well on his christian journey.




I've known this church member for over 5 years with his wife and 2 beautiful daughters. He was never a friend but we often exchange pleasantries.
Today, I walked into a restaurant with my wife and saw him sitting with a youngish looking lady. My first instinct was that she was his co-worker or a business associate. I naively asked how he was doing and how are his wife and kids. He muffled "fine". I found that his response was kind of ambivalent and nonchalant so we promptly proceeded to our seat as led by the waitress.
I then heard the young lady yelled " How dare you lied to me" followed by a splashing noise and when I looked back, the guy was wet and the large cup of coke and ice on their table appeared empty.

The girl then bailed towards the bathroom in tears and He followed her saying" It's not what you are thinking". I told my wife that we needed to leave ASAP but she then sat comfortably like someone waiting to see the conclusion of a movie. I held her wrist, grind my teeth and calmly but seriously said let's get out of here now and she complied........
My wife didn't think I did any thing wrong but I felt so bad for ruining someone's date.

My questions are:
Was I wrong for asking about his family in front of another lady?
Do I call him and offer an apology?
What do I do when I next see him?
Should I just skip church for about a month and see what happen?
Was I wrong to leave the restaurant?

I really feel bad for the dude and thanks in advance for your input.
 
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