@ the bolded, I'm not sure what you were trying to say there, but it seems like the sentence is an oxymoron, again, I may not be reading it correctly. Let me start by saying that women are blessed in that we can achieve orgasm in multiple ways, and we're not restricted to just one way, regardless of how we achieve our orgasm at any given time. There is clitoris stimulation, 'g spot' as it is commonly known, and some women can orgasm to the stimulation of certain errogenous zones, or a combination. For most women, if not all, it's the latter.
I think that men tend to think they know about a woman's body as you've just shown in multiple posts in this thread, but at the end of the day, they don't know anything because they assume instead of asking. Let me assure you, we're as different as they come. Because one person achieves orgasm one way, does not mean that another women achieves orgasm the same way. That's one of the many great aspects of our sexuality/sensuality, but again, most men don't take the time to get to know the woman individually and they assume one size fits all, (no pun intended).
As for the masturbation being addictive like crack cocaine, I can speak for most if not all straight women, we'd much rather have the penis than masturbation ANYDAY, provided the brotha knows what he's doing. If your woman prefers masturbating to your penis (not you personally of course), then there needs to be a different conversation being had, cause that means you're not doing it for her, not that she's addicted to the masturbation, trust me on that one.
As for masturbation being 'sodomy' and even homosexual, I am not buying that in a million years, and you're reaching on that one. Masturbation is not directly mentioned anywhere in the bible, hence, that leaves it to interpretation. As you very well know, theologians differ on what even constitutes Godly reasons or biblically accepted reasons for divorce, and that was very spelled out in the Bible, hence, let's not even go there on the masturbation. Masturbation being a sin can and has been sold as a bill of goods to repress people of their sexuality in the 'church' or the 'body' as we call it, but the homosexuality argument, c'mon my brother, that is extremely far fetched.
I think people of God or church leadership need to take more responsibility in what they say and tell people, especially new believers as to not get them turned off or twisted about the Bible and what message the Book conveys. Please, HM, be careful and what you 'preach' to people. If it is not biblically based, it's OK to say, 'you know what, I'm not sure what God feels about that one, it's not really mentioned in the Bible', there is nothing wrong with that, people will actually respect you more as a leader or an SME, and more human, because we don't know everything. Masturbation is very well one of them, and I think this is a prime example of why we Christians live such hypocritical lives, because we're so busy condemning everything, or misinterpreting the Bible because we want to get OUR point across, not His point. Please na God I take beg you, get off the point of masturbation being homosexual, it's no just misleading, it's a lie and not biblically founded or based. Sex with self is not in the Bible per se, other than Onan, and even that was dicey and it does not even in any way elude to homesexuality, so don't go around saying that. I take offense to that.
You may have something on the lust part, but again, that is open to interpretation, hence, it's highly subjective and should not be taught unilaterally.
These are some of the reasons people don't associate sex with God, because, the church is too busy demonizing it.