It seems to be that Nigerian Men are more tolerant of non Nigerian woman as their spouses, why is that? Let me elaborate. I have many friends, most of whom are married to their Nigerian counterparts, and few who are married to women of other cultures. It seems Nigerian men are more tolerant of these other womens' shortcomings than our own. For example, two couples, one married an American, the other married a Nigerian, neither women can cook, however, the one married to an American sometimes cooks, or they go out, he does not mind, the other Nigerian couple has the man is up in arms that his wifey is unable to cook. Another example, I have another friend, on his second marriage, both are attorneys, however, he has a practice, and she now wants her practice as well, he's threatening 'hell will freeze' and not under my roof BS, while his first wife, who is a Virgin Islander, started her practice and he did not have a problem with it. My brother is married to an American, and my cousin, a Trini, both are so OK with some of the things their wives do or don't do, but if that same wife were to be a Nigerian, all hell will brake lose. My question is: My Nigerian Brothers, why are your expectations so much more inflexible when you're married to a fellow Nigerian than if you were married to another nationality or culture? Mind you, I'm not talking stupid stuff like she does not kneel down to greet your sister or calls your sister by her name, (some Yoruba think that it is the ultimate insult if you call your husband's family by their name even if you're old enough to be their mom). I know I will get chewed out for this question, however, please remember, it's merely a question and please Women, feel free to add or share your experience, the good, bad, and the ugly.