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Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 3

Discussion in 'INTERNATIONAL MOVIES, TV & CELEBRITIES' started by samira, Aug 20, 2010.

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  1. wendydoks

    wendydoks Chickala si odeshi

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    you inferred it.
     
  2. wendydoks

    wendydoks Chickala si odeshi

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    lmao! i loved that in a weird way. buhahahaaa...she said with the way cynthia was crying about not having money to fund the wedding she doesnt think hey would serve quality wine. OMG i nearly collapsed onn hearing that LOOOOOL damn!
     
  3. blackbutterfly

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    Wendydoks - I agree with you about Nene. And I respectfully disagree with you on the rest of your points because in the matter of love, my dear there are many a gray areas o. Your criteria for what represents a wedding is different from what others think. Let me go backwards, she had flowers for what she needed flowers for, she didn't have flowers because the venue did not need flowers hence the reason why she chose that site with the dinosaurs being the focal point, it is a museum and already ornate. Flowers can distract in certain venues. Her bouquet in my personal opinion was FLY and kept the focus on HER.

    As for her mama and sister, they are not the people marrying this man. They don't live with him or know his core especially because Peter seems like the old school type who maintains his privacy very strictly. Mama and sister not being happy is not an indicator that she made a mistake or that her marriage will fail, if that were the case there would be a lot LESS marriages in the world today. I have had friends whom at the beginning the parents had misgiving but guess what, now they all love the marriage because their fears did not materialize. They are human, their first instinct of course is to protect their love one but they are not God!

    Now as for the ring, in my humble opinion if rings were really a true indication of abiding love and commitment then we would have zero infidelity in the world. This na small ting, abeg! The commitment is in the heart, a wedding ring is simply an outward indication of what is supposed to be in your heart! So what they don't have a ring? Let me tell you, there are plenty of men and women who would rather have a ringless but faithful married man/woman by their side. Da na reason to not marry person because dem no fit buy ring? I have an aunt whose husband bought her the cheapest looking ring because he didn't have the money to buy something fancier or more fiscally valueable but after he made some good money, she didn't want that ring replaced with some more expensive. She kept the first ring she got. My best friend's in laws have been married for 40 solid years, he doesn't wear a wedding ring and the wife couldn't care less because for 40 years, he is home at 6.30pm for dinner.

    About the no honeymoon deal, you can have the best honeymoon set in your home and you can also go to the Seychelles for a honeymoon and be miserable as all get. A honeymoon is what you make of it and it is made up of the people. I recently met a couple from South Africa who have been married for 18years, they were young, broke and in entry level positions in their careers and 18 years later, they still haven't gone on an "official" honeymoon and they are cool with it.


    There are people who had all the "right" set up for their wedding but they lasted six months, all those things are not guarantees that the marriage will last forever and it is not an indication that it will break apart either. It is not an indication of anything! The work that begins afterwards and the couples' willingness to make their wedding what they want it to be is what determines the health and length of the marriage.


    I be single girl, abeg o so if I am wrong, make una no vex. I am just using logically deduction and also experiences of friends around me who are married.
     
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  4. sidney

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    What?! Wasn't YOU on this very site that was shouting that no man should near you without a huge ring?!?! Now you are saying a ring is not a big thing?? Wow... ok......

    I agree with most of what you said, but I believe some points should be noted when your family has reservations about your partner.

    True, as an adult, you can do what you want, but if there is universal feeling towards the person you are going to marry, from your relatives, it may be wise to at least listen to what those reservations are. If they have foundation it may be something to heed.. There are many many more situations where the family or friend, who had reservations, were ultimately proven right, than the other way around.. I have seen this to be the case. Especially when the family is relatively level headed...
     
  5. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    my dear to some women the ring is not a big deal. i am one of those women.
    is it ring i will chop? if he spends 5K on my ring, what are we going to use to pay rent? as long as it is not something that will turn my finger green or purple, get me something nice, simple and affordable. and let's make a pledge/commitment to each other.

    so you can start looking for that ring if you want to catch me o :)

     
  6. sidney

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    I know! I was talking about BB specifically now stating it isn't when she adamantly held a different opinion before

    On NR I wrote that the very tradition of diamond engagement rings was a made up by the diamond company DeBeers. That prior to that engagement rings were not traditionally given. BB jumped down my throat about how "she" would need a huge engagement rings. To which I lost my cool in my response, and later had to open a thread to apologize... So I remember this incident. BB was adamant that a ring was important.. So now to see her saying it isn't is a shock to me....

    And good grief that was just one line of my whole post... I was more discussing when family members don't like the spouse, it is something to look into and not discard...
     
  7. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    my family members will like you.
    now go to walmart and pick out our rings.
     
  8. sidney

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    Walmart? You think I'm FM?? Tiffanys..... hbeat:
     
  9. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    :happy0194:
    as long as there is food to eat after Tiffanys...

     
  10. blackbutterfly

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    I recall that is the conversation in which you wash me out with bleach,abi? I don't know if I said any man should never come near me without a big ring but if that's what you said I said, I ain't gonna cry foul but may I also state that in this life one has experiences that causes one to grow and have a change of mind about old view point and if I did think that way a few years ago and have a change of heart a few years late, is that a cardinal sin? Am I not allowed to express that change of heart? And might I add that the woman does have a huge engagement ring, the only thing she doesn't have is the wedding band.
     
  11. Obariba

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    In Mountain of Fire ministries ...na bible una go exchange for altar ...... my dear and by the way ..... many a pawn shop is littered with lovely wedding rings ...at some point someone had to put food on the table and give up that little metal ....cest la vie .....Beyonce na in come spoil the whole thing ...talkin about if u like it u shoulda put a ring on it .....lol ... :cow:
     
  12. Obariba

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    Bros but pesin fit outgrow some certain beliefs with maturity ......Im sure there are many opinions u might have had in da past that changed with time .....( abi u wan make I escavate dem ?)
    coolu oh down .... :cow:
     
  13. sidney

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    Of course, you have the right to change your mind. Absolutely!.. As I have the right to be a little shocked by it and state so... Especially given the stance you took on that previous thread so contradicts the one you took here. In fact, you said something to the effect that I (Sidney) can not buy a ring for whomever I chose, but as for you, a "diamond" ring is a must... Just a little surprised to see new stance in your points to Wendy, given my previous knowledge of your stance on this issue....

    Again it was just one line in response on this thread. I even said I mostly agreed with your post, except the point about family...

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  14. Obariba

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    Just saw this b4 my response to SId ....indeed we are all fluid and are shaped by maturity ...and its perfectly fine to change with the times.


    I think hat Cynthia is so vain I was disappointed when she received her engagement ring ....the first thing she blurted outta her mouth was what designer made the ring .....so na God catch her for her vanity as now she no get wedding band .........just a thought !!!
     
  15. sidney

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    I no dey fight sista! I am just a little shocked... Especially since there was no mention of the previous position she held so sternly to actually indicate the change of heart... No issues, she didn't have to mention anything at all... Her post was hers to write... So for me, it simply surprised me... I actually agreed with 95% of her post!


    Needless to say, I am pretty sure I have never contradicted myself without a FULL retraction... Escavate am and see if I dey lie.... :spiny:
    EG: If one time I said I like "Blue", if I ever post again, this time saying I like "Red" and I will almost always write "I used to like Blue, but now I like Red".... Escavate na and see... :laugh:
     
  16. Obariba

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    I hear u .......bro
     
  17. sidney

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    <whew....>help:


    :laugh:
     
  18. blackbutterfly

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    It's a new year o, make we leave escavation in 2010 :lol
     
  19. sidney

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    If you get any post wey you no wan pesin to find, OB go find am..... help:
     
  20. blackbutterfly

    blackbutterfly Well-Known Member

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    Don't I know it! LOL!

    OB - *in Kim Solcziak voice, cigarette and cocktail in hand* - Escavation is soooooooooo last season! LOL
     
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