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Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 3

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wendydoks

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Wendydoks - I agree with you about Nene. And I respectfully disagree with you on the rest of your points because in the matter of love, my dear there are many a gray areas o. Your criteria for what represents a wedding is different from what others think. Let me go backwards, she had flowers for what she needed flowers for, she didn't have flowers because the venue did not need flowers hence the reason why she chose that site with the dinosaurs being the focal point, it is a museum and already ornate. Flowers can distract in certain venues. Her bouquet in my personal opinion was FLY and kept the focus on HER.

As for her mama and sister, they are not the people marrying this man. They don't live with him or know his core especially because Peter seems like the old school type who maintains his privacy very strictly. Mama and sister not being happy is not an indicator that she made a mistake or that her marriage will fail, if that were the case there would be a lot LESS marriages in the world today. I have had friends whom at the beginning the parents had misgiving but guess what, now they all love the marriage because their fears did not materialize. They are human, their first instinct of course is to protect their love one but they are not God!

Now as for the ring, in my humble opinion if rings were really a true indication of abiding love and commitment then we would have zero infidelity in the world. This na small ting, abeg! The commitment is in the heart, a wedding ring is simply an outward indication of what is supposed to be in your heart! So what they don't have a ring? Let me tell you, there are plenty of men and women who would rather have a ringless but faithful married man/woman by their side. Da na reason to not marry person because dem no fit buy ring? I have an aunt whose husband bought her the cheapest looking ring because he didn't have the money to buy something fancier or more fiscally valueable but after he made some good money, she didn't want that ring replaced with some more expensive. She kept the first ring she got. My best friend's in laws have been married for 40 solid years, he doesn't wear a wedding ring and the wife couldn't care less because for 40 years, he is home at 6.30pm for dinner.

About the no honeymoon deal, you can have the best honeymoon set in your home and you can also go to the Seychelles for a honeymoon and be miserable as all get. A honeymoon is what you make of it and it is made up of the people. I recently met a couple from South Africa who have been married for 18years, they were young, broke and in entry level positions in their careers and 18 years later, they still haven't gone on an "official" honeymoon and they are cool with it.


There are people who had all the "right" set up for their wedding but they lasted six months, all those things are not guarantees that the marriage will last forever and it is not an indication that it will break apart either. It is not an indication of anything! The work that begins afterwards and the couples' willingness to make their wedding what they want it to be is what determines the health and length of the marriage.


I be single girl, abeg o so if I am wrong, make una no vex. I am just using logically deduction and also experiences of friends around me who are married.
ok, so there was no ring exchanged but they blew over a milla just to exchange a 2min vow? they cudnt do that with 20k? if it is so much about what is in their hearts, why was she having panick attacks over the cost of the wedding? my point is, they got their priorities messed up. she had a prolly a quarter of a milion dollar gown but they cudnt afford weddng bands? really? ok.
 

wendydoks

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and no where did i state that the bands had to be expensive. the fact remains that their was no ring exchanged. it is suppose to act as a symbol. that part of the wedding where they echanged the vows was left out. it is a very vital part! i dont know how they do it these days ( havnt been to a wed in a min) but that is where the marriage is blessed aint it? even the venue she picked for the wedding could have gone towards their honeymoon. mchew! priorities people!
 

Sifu

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I don't think the ring is a big deal. What bothered me was that the rings were expected but Peter just did not handle it. It is also strange that she did not even know that there were no rings until the day of. Where does that happen
 

Obariba

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ok, so there was no ring exchanged but they blew over a milla just to exchange a 2min vow? they cudnt do that with 20k? if it is so much about what is in their hearts, why was she having panick attacks over the cost of the wedding? my point is, they got their priorities messed up. she had a prolly a quarter of a milion dollar gown but they cudnt afford weddng bands? really? ok.
They bought and deposited for a lot of stuff long b4 the restaurant went down ....in many instances u cant get refunds without a major loss ...so in actuality Cynthia was in the dark about the restaurant and its losses ...so I blame Peter for keeping her in the dark untill last minute ...basically she covered her side of the expenses it was Peter that was unable to meet up on his part of the wedding plans rings etc
 

NTB

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In Mountain of Fire ministries ...na bible una go exchange for altar ...... my dear and by the way ..... many a pawn shop is littered with lovely wedding rings ...at some point someone had to put food on the table and give up that little metal ....cest la vie .....Beyonce na in come spoil the whole thing ...talkin about if u like it u shoulda put a ring on it .....lol ... :cow:
For Redeem the man buys the bible that he will give his wife and na so I take see am for my own day. We exchanged rings later on that day infront of our families and friends.

Abeg leave Beyonce alone :roll
 

NTB

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and no where did i state that the bands had to be expensive. the fact remains that their was no ring exchanged. it is suppose to act as a symbol. that part of the wedding where they echanged the vows was left out. it is a very vital part! i dont know how they do it these days ( havnt been to a wed in a min) but that is where the marriage is blessed aint it?
They spoke their own wedding vows and to me it carried more weight than the missing rings. I applaud her for taking control as much as she could when she found that their plans weren't going as planned rather than throwing in the towel.

even the venue she picked for the wedding could have gone towards their honeymoon. mchew! priorities people!
Is very easy to say now but remember that she was working with the plan that she and Peter agreed upon and by the time she found out about the money issues she had already signed a contract for the venue and possibly may have paid for it. She had to forgo her "dream" honeymoon for a greater good. In the end Cynthia had to take a look at herself and make the decision about going forth with the wedding and she decided to go forth with him for better or for worse. Only you and you alone know how much burden you can carry and has to make a decision at that moment.

Peter's behavior is that of a typical man. Men do not usually share their problems because they do not want to be seen as weak. He tried to deal with the problem on his own and it blew up in his face. He is not sitting pretty where is he now because the Peter I watched throughout the season is a man that enjoys giving than receiving and appears to be rooted in the belief that he must be the head and provider for his family. Him not been in that position now must be killing him inside and for a man it is bigger than a heart attack.
 

NTB

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I no dey fight sista! I am just a little shocked... Especially since there was no mention of the previous position she held so sternly to actually indicate the change of heart... No issues, she didn't have to mention anything at all... Her post was hers to write... So for me, it simply surprised me... I actually agreed with 95% of her post!
Some of beliefs I held dear to my heart in my twenties :-)laugh:) have been washed and rinsed more than 1,000 times, some have faded away, some have changed and some are still the same. We evolve with time and our hormones certainly have a role to play in it. Be prepared to be shocked some more sweat:


Needless to say, I am pretty sure I have never contradicted myself without a FULL retraction... Escavate am and see if I dey lie.... :spiny: EG: If one time I said I like "Blue", if I ever post again, this time saying I like "Red" and I will almost always write "I used to like Blue, but now I like Red".... Escavate na and see... :laugh:
U de get PMS like us :roll
 

wendydoks

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They bought and deposited for a lot of stuff long b4 the restaurant went down ....in many instances u cant get refunds without a major loss ...so in actuality Cynthia was in the dark about the restaurant and its losses ...so I blame Peter for keeping her in the dark untill last minute ...basically she covered her side of the expenses it was Peter that was unable to meet up on his part of the wedding plans rings etc
i c.

peter is always keeping things away from her. not good. this is the 2nd time he did that.
 

Obariba

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:cow: Im easy see !!

It's a new year o, make we leave escavation in 2010 :lol
yes ma'am (cant promise though but ama try !!)

If you get any post wey you no wan pesin to find, OB go find am..... help:
sombori gorra do it ...youknowarramsaying !!!

Don't I know it! LOL!

OB - *in Kim Solcziak voice, cigarette and cocktail in hand* - Escavation is soooooooooo last season! LOL
ahaight !!!

For Redeem the man buys the bible that he will give his wife and na so I take see am for my own day. We exchanged rings later on that day infront of our families and friends.

Abeg leave Beyonce alone :roll
RCCG too ???? wow didnt know that .....daz why Imma stick with Episcopal aka Anglican ....no deviations !!!

i c.

peter is always keeping things away from her. not good. this is the 2nd time he did that.
Yeah that is kinda bothersome .....sad she has to deal with his stuff on National TV cos its prerry serious !!
 

NTB

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Nene claims not to know Phadera and is calling her :roll

Kim's profiting from Kandi's hard work and wanna act like an airhead

Kandi starting a line of sex toys.

Phadera opening a funeral home. She is going to represent the dead cause they don't talk back :roll
 
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