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Should Sex Ed be taught in schools?

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by Thickmadam, Jan 29, 2013.

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  1. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    what do you think?
    should sex education be taught in schools?
    and please for the love of God, (HM this is for you in particular) i just want straight talk, this isn't a religious discussion. it's not for a religious class.
    i've already had a similar discussion with some of my very religious friends (well actually i just sat back and watched them debate each other to the finish).

    i just want to know what you think without damning those with opposing views to hell please, and thank you.
     
  2. Sifu

    Sifu Well-Known Member

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    First sex education should be defined. I don't see why kids should be taught the details at school. Parents should handle that.
     
  3. Supermom

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    Well, when you say Sex education are you talking about the birds and the bees or practicing safe sex.....Because if na birds and bees..well na the children go teach us oh
     
  4. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    can i turn it around on you?
    what would YOU define as sex ed?
     
  5. Sifu

    Sifu Well-Known Member

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    I don't like the name sex education. I think for those who think it is necessary they would define it as exposing the kids to the realities of what happens when you have sex. Children do not need to be taught about what happens should they have sex. They are not supposed to be having sex. I think kids should be taught about the reproductory system like they teach the respiratory system. Teach STDs if needed for scientific purposes and knowledge. I do not like the idea of teaching kids about preventing pregnancies and STDs in school
     
  6. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    ok...i see your point. incidentally, this is exactly what one of my friends said when this topic was being discussed.
    one of the others countered with this:
    there's a high school in richmond where at least 2 out of 5 girls are pregnant, or are mothers. should they not be taught about protecting themselves and what happens if you engage in unprotected sex? obviously they ARE engaging in sexual relations.
    (at this point the discussion devolved into abstinence and self control or the lack thereof, and the conversation got very heated)

     
  7. Village-Boi

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    The simple truth of the matter, no matter how we want to deny it, kids, the world over, ARE having sex.
     
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  8. Sifu

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    No. It is not the school's place. It should not be. They can be referred to the appropriate departments set up for such if they have no parents or legal guardian.
     
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    Of course they are. We know it. That does not excuse schools making those decisions for parents.
     
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    Before I respond, TM, which stage of school are you talking about, PreK, Elementary, Middle School? Nothing over that, by then, it's too late, so which stage of school are you talking about. I tend to agree more with Sifu and how it should be taught like the reproductive system, but again, it depends on what stage or level of school.
     
  11. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    what if the parents are not having this discussion with their kids?
    and when you say appropriate department, what do you mean? department of the school? of the county?
     
  12. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    yikes!! preK?!
    i was actually thinking high school but i've seen cases of middle school girls getting pregnant.
    but great question.
    i suppose the greater question should be "when and how and who should teach kids sex ed?"

     
  13. Abike

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    There's a lot of angle to this discussion, e.g. the question Kaymax just asked...i.e. at what level of education are we talking about?

    One part of me wants to say that there's a lot more that schools need to be teaching students....some (not all) American schools are some of the dumbest when it comes to what students supposedly learn when they leave, especially when compared with their counterparts in other parts of the world....

    The other part of me wants to say that sure, children need to learn about the reproductive system, and the pros and cons of having sex and all that....

    LAstly, PARENTS should be educating their children as well...but then again there are some dumb parents out there, (sorry, I work in education and I see these things daily) so for the children of those parents, the school may be the only place where they get the truth....

    Arghhh.... TM you have started again with all this your filosofikal questions jare :p
     
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    Let me just say this though, I don't see the big deal if it's taught at an appropriate level. Sex is very natural and the more we treat it as a taboo subject, the more the kids will want to 'do it'. If Parents teach it in the home and the schools teach it, then they should compliment each other, like any other subject. I never did understand the big deal about teaching sex to appropriate age children, it's natural, so why do we make a big deal about it?
     
  15. tunmi

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    Sex education should be taught. Both the reproductive systems of males and females as well as the risks associated with having unprotected sex.

    Kids will have and are having sex. That is the first point one must accept, and they will find ways to get information. The problem is whether they get the right information. Just because they are taught about sex does not mean they will have sex. Lying to kids is worse than telling them the truth because when do find out, and they will, that trust is gone. I'd rather arm them with the knowledge of what to do and what not to do and how to do it properly and safely than for them to get some STD or STI that will stay with them for the rest of their life or worse, harm them.

    Herpes stays with you forever and HIV no dey show for face.
     
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    You've now based your argument on "ONLY parents should teach this stuff"... luckily some do but some parents can't and some won't. You also stated if the parents can't then they should be referred to the 'appropiate' departments... don't you think that just happens to be the schools? Forgive me as I have not yet grasped what you 'really' are saying because your initial stand; the quote I first highlighted seems to be a big contradiction.
    I think comparing sex education to the respiratory system is very odd, additionally, sex education is not and will never be the reproductive system. Saying "Children should not be taught about what happens should they have sex" is along the lines of they shouldn't be taught about what happens should they steal/lie/kill... seems like some lopsided moral only direction.
     
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    I believe it's my responsibility to teach my children about sex ...the right way..It's not the school's responsibility ...
    We as parents are giving too much of our responsibilities to the teachers and school authorities...please
    For goodness sake..these children are ours and its our job to raise them well to the best of our ability..
    As a parent, I try to examine my life growing up and learn from what my parents did right or wrong...
    Mine never told me much except don't allow any man touch you ....What da heck does that mean?
    I learnt about the reproduction in Health science class... Before then I didn't even know what goes into what...
    By the time I was in university...I didn't know jack.. Not even what condoms where..
    Why send a child into the world so ill equipped to learn from friends or by trial and error..lol
    Anyway so when I felt it was time I told my kids everything ...I mean everything you can possibly think of..the one that screamed, screamed...
    Too much info, Ewwww that's so gross...Na you sabi..I'm not ready to be grand ma just yet
    The thing is now mine, give us too much info...we try to keep a straight face but men...I can't imagine ever telling my parents some of the things they share....so bottom line I believe we should teach our kids as parents....because they will learn it one way or the other and probably the wrong way
     
  18. Kala Lou

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    I'm all for sex education in schools. Just because the school is teaching sex ed doesn't mean as a parent you don't have to, parents and teachers should be reenforcing instructions to the kids. A lot of us that grew up in Naija know that talking about sex with our parents was unheard of. My sex education in Naija comprised of my bobos chooking finger in a closed fist and saying, "nah so dem dey do am"
     
  19. mimi victor

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    I believe sex education should start at home with the parents before the school. Because if a parent leave the kids till in middle school, It might be too late. If we dont .The television will, Schoolmate will and they might pick up the nasty part of it.My Mum did not go deep into sex with me, But I learn a lot from the boading school listening to my seniors who smuggled Phonographic pictureS into the Dom or the wild girls in my class TALKING ABOUT IT..Kids now are so smart they will learn before you know it, Because the material is everywhere they turn.I start once they start asking questions. The school can teach later.
     
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    Anyone without kids has not earned the stripes to contribute to this exchange, cos I don't see how they can get it.
     
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