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Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by audrey, Oct 11, 2007.

  1. audrey

    audrey just beautiful

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  2. audrey

    audrey just beautiful

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    Please just take your time and read it and lets pray for her
     
  3. chi

    chi I am blessed

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    na wah... who do we believe.. na God know .. i found some lapses in the mans story
    he said when Dr Okechukwu visited his house with his wife Mrs okechukwu she was oblivion of the fact her husband was dating his own wife (roseline) but when u read further he accuses his wife of fighting mrs okechukwu because she mrs okechukwu knew roseline was dating her husband .....conflicting stories . The man should have also defended him self by saying what he does for a living because the wife stated he had no job........ so many people are going thru the same... my aunt in New york kicked her husband out last year because of this same irresponsible character .. Marriage is so spiritual it's not how early you enter but how well u are
     
  4. olofofogal

    olofofogal Let d smoke carry d point

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    GOD help them.i kinda beleive the lady more than the man.he sounds wicked!
     
  5. Papino

    Papino Well-Known Member

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    This is shocking to say the least!!
    I am dazed that people of "OLD ORLU" decided to politicise their private and town matters in the internet.Doctors and lawyers are recklessly named in the shameful shenanigans-very unfortunate!
    On the issue,nothing would change a pig from being a pig no matter where it goes.Nigerian marriages in the diaspora has been an issue that is as old as immigration.However,new twists abound that make our parents wonder in shock at the impact of western civilization on good old African values.This applies both to the men and women alike.My main regret is that it would leave a dangerous scar on the children and it pains me above any other thing.
    Fact is that this stories are verifiable and the truth would be unfolding with time.For now,there is more to it than the two sides we already know and wisdom demands that we wait before taking sidesgrinning:
     
  6. rudeboy

    rudeboy Well-Known Member

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    How she´s endured his wickedness for close to 20 years is what I don´t understand. Now she´s finally left every one is painting the story to suit self. What the hell is she doing with the doctor with restless phallus? Your husband is not comfortable with that man, just leave him alone! With all the wahala and countless accusations going on, she still insisted to go to the same doctor´s clinic for some "pain and suffering" bs payment! Is that the only clinic in Dallas? The man is messed up alright but most times our women forget where they come from. Why would she keep making the insecure man uncomfortable? Just to prove that she as a woman has the same and equal right as the man, that´s all. Now, she should go and marry her doctor boy friend (because her husband ain´t) or marry herself and suffer her kids!
     
  7. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    Whether the story is true or not, THIS is the story of many a married Nigerian woman. I did not say ALL, i said Many, because it is true.

    MOST Nigerian men are controlling, dictatorial...oh, the stories I could tell.

    The travelling to Nigeria without telling the wife? I know 3 people, PERSONALLY that it happened to.
    the mental, emotional abuse? I could write a book on that based on the conversations i've had with my family.

    rudeboy, it's clear why she stayed:
    they had kids
    she was just 18 when they got married
    she was in a strange country
    she is not educated
    she was cut off from family and friends

    read the email again, the reasons abound why she stayed. until she got the courage to leave. it takes tremendous courage and strength to walk out of a marriage (and notice she left when he was in nigeria? that was probably the only way she could have left)

    i keep on saying it, until you have been in that situation, or know someone who has been and seen them suffer and grapple with decision after decision about whether to leave and if the man will come after them and try to kill them or take their children away from her, you will never know why they stayed or did the things they did.

    whether she is having an affair or not is her own palava but no body should stay in a relationship where she OR HE, is being abused day in and day out and then stay for the sake of the kids.

    do you know how many kids are messed up today because of the "my parents stayed together because of me and it's my fault that they fight everyday and they hate each other because of me, and i hate myself because i am the cause of everything?"
    I work with a youth group in church and it's heart breaking hearing them talk about issues.

    just applaud her and pray that she is able to survive day to day.
     
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  8. chi

    chi I am blessed

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    i still wonder how she could spend 20 yrs in hell....she try well well......me at the age of 17 i knew what i wanted no man will pocket me...my love dey where glasses
     
  9. Field Marshal

    Field Marshal ABSOLUTE SUPREME RULER

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    This is the trend in Nigerian marriages in America these days. Why can't Dr Okechukwu stay away from the Nnawuihe family. Why does Dr. Okechukwu insist of being a friend of Mrs Nnawuihe?
     
  10. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    Chi, she's probably an older woman, the younger generation will not stand for it (although you'd be surprised at what many young women are going through at the hands of "husbands")

    anyway, make i waka comot from this thread, i wish everyone involved in this situation luck.

     
  11. ddizzle

    ddizzle Aunty!

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    nawah oh...wonders I dont even know who to believe! and whats with this killing your wife for cheating on you nawa oh....

    Some people keep bringing ancestorial behavior into the Year 2k? Haba?

    5 Kids? hmmm...unbelievable....
     
  12. olofofogal

    olofofogal Let d smoke carry d point

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    rude boy plzzzzzzzzzzzzz dont kill me with laughter oh.
     
  13. olofofogal

    olofofogal Let d smoke carry d point

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    thank u ojare!...lovely writeup,i kinda beleive the lady dont care if shes nacking the doctor and if she is then her hubbys wickedness must hve pushed her out.
     
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    How can a man make you not go home when your parent dies. The man is a devil but the woman has to take respobsibility. He can only control you so much. Though I am sure people were equally advicing her to take for the sake of marriage.
     
  15. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    if you don't own a bank account and he has absolute control of the finances and will not give you any money to buy a ticket, how will you go for your parent's burial?



     
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    I do not support anyone staying in abusive relationship. My point is that she spent all these years enduring this wickedness and stayed? Or the man got this terrible after close to 20 years? Abeg give me a break! Both are telling stories to suit thier respective lies but we must apply common sense here. This is Dallas not Orile! Why did she not leave for close to 20 years? Whatever she took all these while she cannot take any longer because of Dr. Dauda! That is the only fact that correlate from both warriors. It is good she´s left now to focus on the doctor´s restless phallus (Olofofo laughs again). That is why she´s left forget all those tori when she de knack, she for leave all these while! The man koko never start him mission.
     
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  17. chi

    chi I am blessed

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    abi oh.... i don't think the younger generation can allow it last that long... it could go on for a while but not 20 yrs ......mba .. marriage bakwa oku ...sweat:
     
  18. chi

    chi I am blessed

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    na double craze u be ... :laugh:....you are something else
     
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    mimi victor Well-Known Member

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    What about the kids? Nobody care about their mental state in all this rukus.
     
  20. noone

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    My sister,

    as ThickMadam said that generation had their issues. as far as they were concerned children were to be seen and not heard. they claim they 'stayed' together for the children. that's as far from the truth as it gets because their relationship was more destructive together than apart. a lot of adults who are in a marriage of convenience today, are products of parents that 'stayed together for the sake of their children'; they don't know any better.

    In those days, they looked down on children from 'broken homes' but sometimes, those ones fared better because they aspired to better things for their future while those from 'unbroken homes' just dey there, not knowing that marriage can actually be exciting and enjoyable

    your're right, no one thinks of the mental state of the children and that's why a lot of us have issues to deal with when we go into our own relationships...God will help us all
     

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