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Things men wish women knew

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blackpearl

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“For all the time they spend talking about us, you’d think they’d know us better,” Washingtonian Jack G., 32, told me when I asked him to share what he thinks women don’t know about men.

He has a point. The dating habits of single men are a hot topic for many single women across the country. There’s much debate and dozens of simple answers to more obvious questions. But what are guys not telling you? I investigated to uncover several things you should know in order to help you understand your dates better.

1. Men like it when a woman makes the first move. The words “first move” are easily misinterpreted, so let me clarify things: Making the first move doesn’t entail throwing yourself at a man. Acknowledging him with eye contact or giving him a smile is definitely a first move, and guys love the feeling of being flirted with by a woman. Hopefully, most men can pick up the ball and run with it after that first flirty signal.

2. It’s OK to play hard to get — but avoid those stale, old-school tactics. Surely you’ve heard this old wives’ tale: To hold a man’s interest, a woman must play hard to get. Here’s the kicker — men and women may agree on this, but they define “playing hard to get” differently. You might interpret it as turning a man down the first time he asks you out or pretending to ignore him when he walks by, as if such behavior is a turn-on. Ladies, frankly, for most of us, it doesn’t work that way; instead, it’s simply frustrating. Successfully playing hard to get works like this: once a man knows there’s at least a flicker of mutual interest, you get coy. You genuinely smile at him and then look away. You acknowledge his sexual advances while holding them at bay. It’s all about setting your pace and what works for you. You might be busy one night and can’t go on a date, but offer another day or time to meet up instead. Treat playing hard to get like an ongoing dance rather than a yes or no question to be answered.

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