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Two Christians are dating...and in the line of keeping it real..

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by paj, Oct 17, 2011.

  1. paj

    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    ...what questions should they ask in relation to sex? I mean..for me I just told women my shoesize and they take am from dia..smokin: but..really..should sex be discussed or a no-go area?
     
  2. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    what? christians don't have sex?
     
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    samira Well-Known Member

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    coughing......a size 4.5 is nothing to write home ojare....just sayin :laugh:

    Certain topics like sex are very delicate at the early stages of a relationship. I believe that at the dating stage, the topic of sex should be avoided like a plague. Getting to know each other, going with the flow, and living in the moment is what the couple should focus on. If you want to make this relationship a serious one, don't think of sex as a top priority. You want to be smitten with his/ her mind and getting to know him/her. So be patient and establish the strong bond you are yearning for and the rest will fall into place. Holding off on what your libido is telling you will pay off in spades in the long run.

    girlfriend, u start entertaining him with the sex talk and you will find your ass flat on the bed
     
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    mealone Well-Known Member

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    Medical science tells me that shoes size has nothing to do with that,shoe size and "other" size are mutually exclusive just an old wives tale better yet old husband's tale. marra of fact, what men lack there, they make up for with large feet sweat::1087: jest saying
     
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    rudeboy Well-Known Member

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    I disagree Sam! I think after saying "hello" and "hi", sex should be the next topic on the agenda. Why? Because if you avoid it and focus on only "getting to know each other, going with the flow, and living in the moment", supposen you finally arrive at a strong and serious relationship and discover the guy wants you to call him "big daddy" during "workshop sessions" and you ve always really hated the dumbest idea of calling your man "big daddy" at such unholy hours? Or the man discovers anytime his hands reaches her "ochanja" or "upper iweka" she starts throwing up balls of swallowed fufu? Trust me this is how people use their own hands in breaking their own hearts.
     
  6. samira

    samira Well-Known Member

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    Tell him chica tell him. Pa j come back here :roll
     
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    samira Well-Known Member

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    You can't be serious rudeboy! Loving someone is all about respecting and trusting them. These two elements have to be there for a relationship to work and it has to be mutual. If you want me to call you some ridiculous name that I do not feel obliged to do so, you ought to respect that. After the couple has given themselves time to know each other, they can discuss sex and agree on what is okay for each one of them. There is no need to make sex a top priority when you do not even know whether you like the person or not.
     
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    You have a point, but my question is how about spending all those early time to get so used to each other and after a while they find out they couldnt agree on sex. What happens to the solid relationship they'd already built? Considering that sometimes, they clinch on what they have together, relationship wise, and ignore sex. Years later, sex becomes more important than relationship unless both agree to get their satisfactions elsewhere, which is kind of rare. For me, I think sex should be discussed, okay, maybe not in the first five minutes of first date, but with some style. The potential couple should find a befitting way of discussing it quite early alongside every other thing.
     
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    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    hehehe you fell for it. rudie was playing nah. tee hee
     
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    I am not saying that the couple should not discuss sex until the morning of the marriage. All I am saying is that I do not think that it is wise for the couple to start discussing sex at the early stages of dating. This is a time for you to get to know each other. When you have given yourself sometime to get to know someone, you will be able to know the person's character, their level of integrity, and whether or not they are an honest person. Then you can decide whether this person is someone you will like to go on the next level with. At this point you are comfortable with him/her and can discuss sex. See, men are different from women....and when it comes to the topic of sex at the early stages, a woman has to be careful the context in which they discuss the sex topic and how often they choose to have these discussions.
     
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    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    pre-marital sex is a sin, so a question then: is discussing sex going to be a temptation and a hindrance to their christian walk?
     
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    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    ye!
    abasi eeeeee!!
    :happy0194: :lol: :laugh:
     
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    is he? Rudie come back here :roll I was like really? LOL
     
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    Thick ma'am!
     
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    Trust me, you were making valid points, Sam!
     
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    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    ...well...the idea or ideal is to adhere to abstinence...but I no know if phonesex or sexting is off the table sha..smokin:
     
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    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    ..in SHORT...U are saying???:gnash...
     
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    Well maybe for some guys but that is not the case for some. I can tell you that right now. I will leave it at that...
     
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    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    .I gree!:gnash.."Hi...they call me Batasize24..but U can call me BigShoe...wanna skru?": gnash ...and when she says "TUFIAKWA!":gnash then U say 'just checking..U know..shidrens of nowadays"..smokin: ...but seriously though...how far should/must the relationship progress before the issue comes up?abi na afuta una don tie knot U go find out sey kissing na abomination for him village?
     
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    Usually the guys are the ones that start the sex talk and the girl feels obligated to talk about it as well or risk losing the guy. Anyways sex is an important subject but like you said at the initial stage of any relationship it is not a priority Christian or no Christian.
     

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