What does it mean when someone tries so hard to be your close friend?

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mama-gee

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Guys, I was just trying to find out why someone who isn't even your close friend all of a sudden tries so hard to be your best friend, she asks you personal questions about where your daughter goes to school, what your sisters say about her etc?

But this same lady isn't even your friend she was just a former classmate, she goes about asking someone that knows you "how is my best friend doing"
 
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Field Marshal is correct although she might be socially awkward and overdoing it. I also know from experience that you should be careful. They can end up manipulating and controlling without trying to be so and try to include you in their lives in a way that you don't want. Also (not everyone but some) there is a thin line in this kind of attachment to envy.

Friendship takes time to blossom and anything too quick will burn out fast and entangle.
 

His Majesty

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Guys, I was just trying to find out why someone who isn't even your close friend all of a sudden tries so hard to be your best friend, she asks you personal questions about where your daughter goes to school, what your sisters say about her etc?

But this same lady isn't even your friend she was just a former classmate, she goes about asking someone that knows you "how is my best friend doing"
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mama-gee

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Field Marshal is correct although she might be socially awkward and overdoing it. I also know from experience that you should be careful. They can end up manipulating and controlling without trying to be so and try to include you in their lives in a way that you don't want. Also (not everyone but some) there is a thin line in this kind of attachment to envy.

Friendship takes time to blossom and anything too quick will burn out fast and entangle.
Could it be jealousy?
 

Dsampler

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Guys, I was just trying to find out why someone who isn't even your close friend all of a sudden tries so hard to be your best friend, she asks you personal questions about where your daughter goes to school, what your sisters say about her etc?

But this same lady isn't even your friend she was just a former classmate, she goes about asking someone that knows you "how is my best friend doing"
My own advice be say, just hide ya money well well inside that ya matress. And if you dey use banks, hide ya bank account number well well.
 
#11
Can't tell you that as she is not relating to me but if you feel uncomfortable, don't ignore it because you want to be kind and open. i just believe true friendship is respectful of personal space and should be organic in growth.

Had a similar experience and i had to cut it off because i just couldn't work that person's expectations into my life and many of the expectations ended up being things of benefit to her. But aside from that, i just don't have the emotional energy for something that feels too heavy and uncomfortable.
 
#13
Trust your instinct where your life is concerned. If you are not too comfortable with the closeness then limit what you say to her until you think you can trust her enough.
 
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