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What does it mean when someone tries so hard to be your close friend?

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by mama-gee, Jul 26, 2012.

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  1. mama-gee

    mama-gee Active Member

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    Guys, I was just trying to find out why someone who isn't even your close friend all of a sudden tries so hard to be your best friend, she asks you personal questions about where your daughter goes to school, what your sisters say about her etc?

    But this same lady isn't even your friend she was just a former classmate, she goes about asking someone that knows you "how is my best friend doing"
     
  2. Field Marshal

    Field Marshal ABSOLUTE SUPREME RULER

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    She's probably trying to connect and belong that's all. Maybe your doing better than she is and she wants to be identified with you.
     
  3. Village-Boi

    Village-Boi Well-Known Member

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    Oh na woman dey ask woman? I no sabi as women come from a different planet. If na guy then him wan tap ya current end of lol.
     
  4. Abike

    Abike Well-Known Member

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    Say waaaaaaaaaaaat? VB:knuck :fing23:


     
  5. Village-Boi

    Village-Boi Well-Known Member

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    Wetin? Wetin be this hammer you dey take beat me for emoshikon? Na so they teach you to tap current? Na fake teasha you get!
     
  6. FilmDirector

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    Field Marshal is correct although she might be socially awkward and overdoing it. I also know from experience that you should be careful. They can end up manipulating and controlling without trying to be so and try to include you in their lives in a way that you don't want. Also (not everyone but some) there is a thin line in this kind of attachment to envy.

    Friendship takes time to blossom and anything too quick will burn out fast and entangle.
     
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  8. mama-gee

    mama-gee Active Member

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    Could it be jealousy?
     
  9. Dsampler

    Dsampler D. Ultimate Naija Ruler

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    My own advice be say, just hide ya money well well inside that ya matress. And if you dey use banks, hide ya bank account number well well.
     
  10. mama-gee

    mama-gee Active Member

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    What do you mean, I didn't get you
     
  11. FilmDirector

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    Can't tell you that as she is not relating to me but if you feel uncomfortable, don't ignore it because you want to be kind and open. i just believe true friendship is respectful of personal space and should be organic in growth.

    Had a similar experience and i had to cut it off because i just couldn't work that person's expectations into my life and many of the expectations ended up being things of benefit to her. But aside from that, i just don't have the emotional energy for something that feels too heavy and uncomfortable.
     
  12. Dsampler

    Dsampler D. Ultimate Naija Ruler

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    Na im be say, she may not be interested in you at all. She may be much more interested in your money.
     
  13. saloneguurl

    saloneguurl Active Member

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    Trust your instinct where your life is concerned. If you are not too comfortable with the closeness then limit what you say to her until you think you can trust her enough.
     
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