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What exactly is a husband-snatcher?

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by noone, Apr 18, 2012.

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  1. noone

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    This is a very sensitive topic but it has been bugging me to no end. Lately, I have been trawling a lot of Nigerian blogs and where ever there is a post on marriage and relationships, the next thing you know, is somebody (usually female) goes off on a tangent, it seems, about 'husband-snatchers' and how they want to take what somebody else has worked for etc etc...

    Then I just came from a blog where somebody claims another woman snatched her husband and she should return him etc etc...

    My question is what exactly is a husband-snatcher? How do you 'snatch' someone else's husband? Why is it that it is only the husbands that are snatched, never the wives? These 'snatched' men, how do they see themselves? Is snatching voluntary or forced? I mean, don't the 'snatchees' have any say in the matter? Or are the 'snatchers' so powerful that no one they set their eyes on can resist them?

    This is no tongue-in-cheek post...I really do need some kind of clarity here because I'm seriously struggling to understand how you can snatch something/one that is 'stuck' to another.

    I particularly welcome posts from married folk...not about your own personal situations but since it's usually a 'husband' that is snatched...what is your own perspective on this snatching business?

    Has anybody ever had the unfortunate experience of being labelled a 'husband-snatcher' (unfortunately, 'wife-snatchers' seem to get away with it so...) for whatever reason (you don't have to justify yourself...this is not a court of law so no judgement will be passed) I am genuinely, genuinely interested in this issue because a lot of people seem to linking it to well, mainly 'single' girls out there...as if married women can't snatch...

    But back to the question before I end up answering it myself...What exactly is a husband-snatcher?

    Thank you.
     
  2. Candylecious

    Candylecious Na today!

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    A husband snatcher can be defined as all dis women dem wey dey waka from house to house dey snatch up other people husband. Like dem go waka enter the house just snatch the man, even when he is kicking, screaming and hanging on to the tv antenna for dear life sey im no wan follow dem go, dem go still snatch the man sharpish...
     
  3. mealone

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    :happy0065::happy0065: candy!!!
     
  4. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    Nobody can snatch somebody who doesn't want to be snatched.
     
  5. Sola

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    Yep. But it is possible to push the person away, thereby making the snatching process easier. Or to rephrase, should ladies have a problem with a man being snatched when the man has no problem with it?
     
  6. kolinzo

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    I think this is a rhetorical question but I will answer it. A husband snatcher is female who intentionally goes after other females husband and gain his love. She must succeed in doing that to be labelled 'husband snatcher.'
     
  7. chi

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    but how can she succeed in gaining his love or snatching the man if all is well between the man and his wife
     
  8. kolinzo

    kolinzo Oodua4life

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    I believe the thread starter is asking for the definition of a "husband snatcher." Although what you are asking here is a different question but I will go ahead and answer it. There is no one way in snatching a husband. Things can be all rosy in the marriage but nature has its way of breaking it. One of the ways is seduction. Well, you know how female can seduce a man in a heartbeat. The mind may not be willing but the body may do otherwise. In a situation like this, where seduction lords over flesh, she will succeed in gaining his attention and take it from there.
     
  9. noone

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    Thank you to all that have taken out time to read and respond to this thread. Please bear with me as I try to work out the answer to this question based on the various replies -
    1) A husband-snatcher is a woman who goes purposefully goes after another woman's husband to gain him/his love/attention etc
    2) On the other hand, the term 'husband-snatcher' is actually an oxymoron because you can't snatch someone that doesn't want to be snatched.
    3) While that may be, sometimes, stuff gets in the way of a marriage and causes people's eyes to wander and at that moment they may be 'snatched' by someone else.
    4) But it still comes back to number 2 because you have to want to be snatched or at least indicate a willingness to be snatched for the snatching to be possible...
     
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  10. noone

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    That's what I've always thought but I wanted to put it out there and hear other people's views/experiences etc...

    Is it the snatcher that pushes the person away? And how is that possible if the snatchee doesn't want to be pushed away?
    And to your question, Fada, isn't that also linked to women crying 'husband-snatcher'! and the men sort. of. remaining. mute? So have they been snatched then, if they don't have a problem with it?

    Thanks for that insight, by the way...
     
  11. Gen Sani Abacha

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    QED...The female equivalent of a wife-stealer. A wife stealer literally sweeps another man's wife off her feet, wins her affectations whereby she no longer cares for hubby and runs off with her Mr Loverman...:D
     
  12. noone

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    I suppose that sort of hits the nail on the head - she has to succeed in 'snatching' the man.

    I know! Another contradiction! And that's what puzzles me to no end! While Kolinzo answers the question, you've thrown up the very crux of the matter that has been doing my head in! How can you snatch what doesn't want to be snatched???
     
  13. noone

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    ;):D GSA, ibiakwa! Let me finish with this first and then we can go on to your definition of a wife-stealer QED!
     
  14. noone

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    Yes, I was and you have defined it, thanks for that but it does throw up all sorts of other things which you've also attempted to explain.

    So following your thought on the seduction theme...when seduction lords over the flesh, if I may borrow your words, will that be enough to snatch...bearing in mind that snatching is for keeps and seducing may only succeed for a short time? Or is that part of the process of snatching, I seduce you then I snatch you?
    So doesn't the snatchee have any say in the matter???

    (Gosh! This is making men appear like gormless worms...and believe me, that is not the intention)
     
  15. Gen Sani Abacha

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    Okay, Lady Tam...ride on...:D
     
  16. Dsampler

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    ......and abeg, make someone also explain the situation wey you borrow the husband. After now, the man no gree go back home. Na your fault be that? and can you be labelled a husband snatcher too?? afterall, you don release the man. Na im no wan go back.

    Disclaimer: This is a situation I heard about. Definitely not a personal experience of mine.
     
  17. rudeboy

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    A husband snatcher is a saviour. She is that kind and loving specie of a woman who comes along to the rescue of an abused useless man who has been incapable of putting his foot down and making his clueless wife to shut-da-four-cup! A husband snatcher is a blessing in disguise to the snatched-mumu, but only for sometime. This is because he will repeat himself only to be rescued again by another husband snatcher. This cycle continues till the anu-mpama is no more rescueable. A husband snatcher snatches for one reason but as soon as the snatching mission is accomplished that one reason increases geometrically including unseen wars and words from the screaming victim (the pity-asking wife). A husband snatcher is too powerful because her preys are not limited to Nigerian politicians, kidnappers, armed robbers and juju priests.
     
  18. Thickmadam

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    still no excuse.
    pushing you away doesn't mean you should violate whatever vows you took.

    to the second part of your question, if the man has no problem with it, then he's not being snatched. he's willingly going along with the wares being flung in his face.
     
  19. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    there're always going to be people who, on purpose, go after other people's spouses/significant others. there's always temptation in the world. ALWAYS.
    the potential snatchee needs to stand up to the temptation.

    the "snatcher" forcefully takes the man on dates or forces him to meet her somewhere and forcefully takes a hold of his penis and inserts into her vajajay?
    at no time in that process did the snatchee say "hey, wait a minute?"

    i will say though, that a couple needs to check in with each other periodically to make sure things are still ok.

     
  20. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    abeg i no fit laugh today. hahahahahaha
     
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