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Your Inlaws are visiting....

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by paj, Sep 27, 2011.

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  1. blackbutterfly

    blackbutterfly Well-Known Member

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    A few things always change when you have guests at home so certainly if my in-laws are visiting, we will have to made a few adjustments afterall if my parents were visiting I would do the same. If I cannot afford to take a few day off, I do have a flexible job so I would probably adjust my hours in the morning so I can make them breakfast before I leave and show them how to operate the microwave for the lunch which will already be in the fridge for them. If the visit was a planned visit, we would not have taken on any commitment that would interfere with spending a little time with our parents but those that cannot be avoided, we will just make sure they have something to eat and go take care of our business. I will give them a spare key so they can go out themselves (depending if we live in a city like NY which is easy to navigate) if they don't want to be couped up in the house waiting for us.

    As per sleeping arrangements, if we have only one bedroom, I would give them our bedroom out of respect and sleep on the pull out and of course, no hanky-panky in the living room in case mama in-law needs a glass of water in the middle of the night :lol. However, if we have extra rooms, they will get their own and our intimacy will continue as before just without any extreme vocal appreciation :lol.

    It is all a matter of how much of your routine you are willing to adjust to accomodate them and whether you have an inflexible job, children etc. You just hope that they will respect themselves too and not think that we will be giving up everything to cater to them hand and foot. This no be Naija, we don't have house help to take care of those little details, abeg.
     
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  2. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    lmaoooo
    that's what my friend said too. that her mother in law was shocked that her son, her FIRST SON, no less, was washing dishes. i asked her how she handled it and she said she didn't.
    she just told her husband to let his mum know that this is america and there are no househelps, and that they have set up their household in a way that works for both of them. she said she had to lock herself in the bathroom to laugh at the speed with which the woman rushed to take the dishes away from her son.

    Sif-sif is right. for a lot of nigerians it's a big no-no for a woman to call her husband by his name. but a lot of the younger nigerian couples are not subscribing to that. my aunt calls her husband "chief", another calls hers "nnam uku" ...loosely translated it's means big father, or big man, or master.
    i absolutely refuse, REFUSE to call my husband anything like that. na crase?
    if your name or honey, darling, sweetie doesn't work, then yawa don gas.

     
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  3. Dsampler

    Dsampler D. Ultimate Naija Ruler

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    Pretense, pretense. True color go show one day.
     
  4. mealone

    mealone Well-Known Member

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    :confused::confused:
     
  5. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    lmaooooooooo :happy0194:
    my sister long time. some posts are just better left alone.
     
  6. Pete

    Pete Well-Known Member

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    The passive nature of most modern day cultures will always challenge old traditions. Put things in perspective, if the pattern was to remain consistent (that is, the ever-evolving shift from established traditions) as it is, would you be willing to accept your kid's style/way of life even if it highly contrasts what you practice? Or should it always come down to whatever makes them happy?
     
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  8. paj

    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    ...thanks to my very understanding wife she agreed that I could add an additional wife when I turn 75...smokin: and God forbid if @ 75 I go gree some 21 year old chick just "slam name for my head" simply because of Luff in Tokyo :gnash
     
  9. Abike

    Abike Well-Known Member

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    Come again?

     
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  10. Field Marshal

    Field Marshal ABSOLUTE SUPREME RULER

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    :confused: .............so wai u dey call me Big Daddy wen i dey enta u nah? :confused:
     
  11. Thickmadam

    Thickmadam OHHHHHH YEAHHHHHHHH!!

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    shhhhh!
    i was referring to something else and not YOU!
    haba! why you want open our bizness for public? :angry:
     
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    Sifu Well-Known Member

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    Same thing here. She started doing dishes after that. LOL
     
  13. blackbutterfly

    blackbutterfly Well-Known Member

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    Like all three of yours do here everyday, abi? You should know so that's why you commented, those shoes fit well well. You dey look for insult from my hand dis afternoon, abi? Wait for me, I dey come okay NONSENSE!
     
  14. Pete

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    What part did you not understand? I'm trying to relate our older folk's experience and reactions to what we would experience and how we would react at old age.
     
  15. mealone

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    haba pete, you just decided to go complicated today
     
  16. Pete

    Pete Well-Known Member

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    Yep, sadly we all get old, and sometimes wish we never did.
     
  17. kolinzo

    kolinzo Oodua4life

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    E kpom nwokem!! You are a true son of the soil.grinning:
     
  18. Tunde

    Tunde 10QLORD

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    My brother you are so right you have no idea.
     
  19. paj

    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    ..wait O!!:gnash...na who chop finish wey the husband dey wash dishes?:gnash was he doing his own dishes abi all of dem chop finish then na the husband come dey wash dishes?:gnash I wait for ya answer before I get even more pissed :gnash
     
  20. paj

    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    which "she"..the wife or the mother in law?smokin:
     
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