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Your spouse in bed with your best friend...

Discussion in 'LOVE, MARRIAGE, THE SEXES' started by chi, Aug 17, 2008.

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  1. chi

    chi I am blessed

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    What would you do if you caught your spouse in bed with your best friend?

    Saturday, 16 August 2008
    What would you do if are faced with the dilemma of confronting the gory picture of your best friend in bed with your spouse. This is one of the most unpardonable things that, sometimes, surrounds us and we just don’t know what to do about it. Showtime went to town to find out some peoples’ opinion on this particular issue and these are our findings. Enjoy it.

    My wife will go —John Okafor,(Mr Ibu) Actor, Comedian
    I will go outside and allow them to finish first, if they still have the courage to do so. Then, as for my wife, she go carry her things comot for my house. For my friend, I’ll forgive him because if my wife no accept am, e no go happen at all.

    Divorce is out of it — Moses Armstrong, Actor, Movie Director
    I will never sleep with her again but I’ll not divorce her. She will have to stay and take care of the kids, if there’s any, I’ll equally not eat her food but will still give her money for the family upkeep. Assuming we don’t have any kid yet, then, I’ll talk about divorce. For a girlfriend, that will be the end of the relationship.

    I will forgive them—Emeka Enyiocha, Actor
    I will forgive them and if I love her so much, I’ll take her back as if nothing happened.

    It will be difficult to handle —Anyamele Sam Uche, Actor
    For my wife, it will be very difficult to handle but, as a Christian, I’ll have to live with it. Again, I need to find out what led to it, may be she was under duress or I’m not doing my home work well. For a girlfriend, that will be the end of the relationship.

    She’s made her choice—Ejike Asiegbu, Actor, President AGN
    It’s over between us and there’s no going back. There will be no excuse or apology that can remedy the situation because she has told me outrightly that my friend is good enough. I mean it is a vote of no confidence on me that my friend is better than myself so she can continue with him.

    I’ll walk away—Weird MC, Musician
    Life presents all kinds of challenges but, somehow, it must continue. I will walk away and never come back, I’ll equally forgive them and move on.

    It’s over — Munachi Abii, MBGN, 2007
    At first I’ll be shocked. A couple of things will run through my mind as to why they would do that kind of thing. I could kill them or take a long walk and never come back but I will forgive them and wish them luck, the relationship between me and them, it’s over.

    I will charge at them— Iyabo Lawani, Actor, Health Consultant.
    I will be shocked to find them in such act and, therefore, will charge at them spontaneously. But, later when sanity returns, I will sit down with them to reason. But knowing myself too well, I will walk out of the relationship.

    I’ll walk away and not hurt them — Muma Gee, Musician
    I will walk out on both of them and quit the relationship with immediate effect. I’ll not even pack my load, I’ll just walk away and move on with my life.
    The stigma of the humiliation will be too much for me to bear but I will not hurt them in anyway.

    What can I do, nothing — Yinka Davies, Musician
    Nothing, I won’t do anything. What can I just do? Whatever it was that led them into it will be resolved and we’ll have to talk things over.

    I will kill both —Elkanah Mowarin,
    I will kill both of them. After all, the Bible told us that the soul that sins shall die. Love is a strong feeling of very deep affection while marriage is holy and a violation is equal to murder. You cannot love me and betray me at the same time. Therefore, if I catch my wife and my best friend having sex, I will kill both of them on the spot period.

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  2. chi

    chi I am blessed

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    I 'll be very angry ..... but at the end of the day, I'll still forgive him
     
  3. paj

    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    ... divorce am....wait make she begin make friends...begin kpansh all of dem one by one....smokin:
     
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    Hubscrown Well-Known Member

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    I will join them.:imp
     
  5. yama

    yama ~~Y@m@licious~~

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    i don't kno yet, wait till it happen den u'll get to hear it.
     
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    grafikdon Well-Known Member

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    This guy is unbelievable! So your ''friend'' gets away with a pat on the back, huh? It's your opinion hommie, but it has too much holes. See how women bear the brunt of infidelity even when men are equal partners...


    Back to topic (not sure I posted OT): I have no no idea what my reaction would be... my hands says ''throw someone(male) outta the window after drawing the map of Africa on his face your clenched fist'' but my mind says "Let it go, the harm's been done''.
     
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    Sifu Well-Known Member

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    LOL at the soul that sinneth it shall die
     
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    Pretty Girl Well-Known Member

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    Ehen, shebi he has friends too?...okay now.food-sm:
     
  9. Sifu

    Sifu Well-Known Member

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    I just the original post again. LOL. Why does it have to be gory. Instead of you to stand in a corner and take notes to improve yourself. The man is just helping you. (LMAO, I got that from a nigerian movie. The woman said that to her husband. "Is he not helping you"
     
  10. ddizzle

    ddizzle Aunty!

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    Are you talking about Before or After the Fire I set destroyed the room with two of them lovemaking inside?

    Kidding...Ill beat the crap out of her but I will walk away..simple.
     
  11. paj

    paj D JENGBORAN OF YORUBALAND

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    ..and what if dem sey make U no disturb dem?:fing04:
     
  12. Hubscrown

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    Depends on whose bed it is after all... Atleast if it is my bed, I can call 911 about two strangers invading my privacy.

    And for me to catch them in any bed, it must be in my bed.
     
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    I would forgive both of them and even join in the orgy........................................just joking!

    I would be very pained.
     
  14. ghanaiangyal

    ghanaiangyal Active Member

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    similar question..men, would you date your best friends wife/girlfriend if the relationship does not work out.

    Many men say there is a code of honour-but if the relationship is over what is the problem?
     
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    If my husband screws my best friend, I will go and screw her husband. That way all will be well. :teu26:
     
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    Off limits for me, if I met her through him... Then I would never do it. Never have, never will!

    I do know of situations where man1 met the woman first, but his friend dated her before him. This situation has never happened to me, but I do understand it.
     
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    For the bolded- why is it off limits? The reasoning is what I am after. Is it the idea that people might perceive you as having wanted her while in the relationship, the idea of having your friend's left overs, or you think you would have to choose between the best friend or new girl?

    As for the second scenario, if the second guy knew the lady before but did not date her why then would he pursue after the friend don enter gate?

    I always say, there is no possible way for two best friends to date the same girl-one's feeling must not have been genuine (either the first or second). Because there is no way you can continue the relationship with both. Either the best friend relationship suffers or chuck of the woman as a love you will never experience. LOl-what do you say when the other ask you how is Ms. X and she is lying right next to you after some nice sex-be rest assured he knows the feeling:D Or how do you talk about your sexual experiences when your boy been there-probably knows more about her than you:D or even if I am the girl, when the best friend comes over I would not know how to act.
     
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