blackpearl
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Normally I do not go about sharing stuffs like this but I would just like to know people's opinions about this particular topic I would like to share. Yes, in some kind of way I am stuck and somewhat I do not want to give any advice because if the kasala bursts I really do not want my name to be mentioned in this mess.
Fine here it goes.
I have two friends Banke and Asake (fictional names, so don't bother). Now Banke met this guys at the beginning of the year and really liked him. They were friends at first and ended up hooking up. He eventually came to see her (since he does not live in the same state Banke lives in). And since the both of them were not too sure on how this would end, they decided not to let anybody else know. Banke confided in her friend Asake and Asake was angry with her but didn't tell her. Well Asake, ends up going to work and told one of her friends at work what Banke had done. Asake was not aware that her friend at work recorded the conversation because Asakes friend at work actually knows BANKE.
So mr man travels back to where he came from, and is beefing with Banke. Banke now asked him why he was so upset, that one now gave her the download on the matter, not knowing that Asakes friend at work, knows someone that is connected to the bobo. ( lol, i know confusing story ). They decide to still try and see what goes from there but Banke lied to Asake telling her that they are no longer together. In the mean time Banke had heard everything that Asake had said, and was shocked to say the least.
Banke decided to keep quiet and say nothing. Why I do not know. Anyway, fast forwarding a couple of months. Now Asake spoke to Banke and told her that d bobo seems to be hitting on her. Since Banke had told Asake that they are not together, she couldn't tell her that they actually dated for a couple of months and then broke up. So Asake now asks Banke if she would have a problem with that. Banke now lied to Asake and told her she doesn't have a problem with that and she would be happy if it works out between them. (well bobo broke up with Banke about 2 weeks ago, so the wound is still fresh) Asake herself is already thinking of marriage and what not....
Now Banke comes running to me to ask me for advice, what would you say?
* My thoughts were she should have told Asake right from day one about what she said or at least confront her. She did not. Again, I understand people want their privacy and stuffs and I can relate to the fact that you wouldn't want everyone to know who you are dating, especially when people expect you to settle down very soon. I feel Banke should have told her that she doesn't feel comfy with it. At the end of the day the decision is really with Asake and there is nothing much she can do but at least tell her how she felt would have been important. Then concerning the bobo, I mean seriously? Hitting on two friends? I have no comment on that, well not for now! *
Fine here it goes.
I have two friends Banke and Asake (fictional names, so don't bother). Now Banke met this guys at the beginning of the year and really liked him. They were friends at first and ended up hooking up. He eventually came to see her (since he does not live in the same state Banke lives in). And since the both of them were not too sure on how this would end, they decided not to let anybody else know. Banke confided in her friend Asake and Asake was angry with her but didn't tell her. Well Asake, ends up going to work and told one of her friends at work what Banke had done. Asake was not aware that her friend at work recorded the conversation because Asakes friend at work actually knows BANKE.
So mr man travels back to where he came from, and is beefing with Banke. Banke now asked him why he was so upset, that one now gave her the download on the matter, not knowing that Asakes friend at work, knows someone that is connected to the bobo. ( lol, i know confusing story ). They decide to still try and see what goes from there but Banke lied to Asake telling her that they are no longer together. In the mean time Banke had heard everything that Asake had said, and was shocked to say the least.
Banke decided to keep quiet and say nothing. Why I do not know. Anyway, fast forwarding a couple of months. Now Asake spoke to Banke and told her that d bobo seems to be hitting on her. Since Banke had told Asake that they are not together, she couldn't tell her that they actually dated for a couple of months and then broke up. So Asake now asks Banke if she would have a problem with that. Banke now lied to Asake and told her she doesn't have a problem with that and she would be happy if it works out between them. (well bobo broke up with Banke about 2 weeks ago, so the wound is still fresh) Asake herself is already thinking of marriage and what not....
Now Banke comes running to me to ask me for advice, what would you say?
* My thoughts were she should have told Asake right from day one about what she said or at least confront her. She did not. Again, I understand people want their privacy and stuffs and I can relate to the fact that you wouldn't want everyone to know who you are dating, especially when people expect you to settle down very soon. I feel Banke should have told her that she doesn't feel comfy with it. At the end of the day the decision is really with Asake and there is nothing much she can do but at least tell her how she felt would have been important. Then concerning the bobo, I mean seriously? Hitting on two friends? I have no comment on that, well not for now! *
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